Sometimes it is difficult to be happy in your life. We are easily distracted by our obligations, our work, technology or health issues. If you are currently unhappy about some aspect of your life, you could commit to making some changes throughout the year in order to become happier and healthier. Learn how to live your life by setting goals in all of the following areas: your fitness, your job, your hobbies and your social life.
Part 1 of 4: Evaluate Your Life
Step 1. Define what life is like for you
The notion of "life" is subjective. You need to think about what is important to you. What do you want to achieve in your life? What makes you happy? It is only after you think about these things that you will begin to realize what you need to do.
Don't let others define what your life should be like. Some people tend to see certain criteria based on universal human needs (having children or a family, having fun experiences, having a meaningful job) as representative of what “life” should be like. However, what matters most is what you personally consider to be important
Step 2. Keep a journal
Write down the things that bother you in your life, as well as the things that turn you on. A journal can often increase well-being and could also help you identify positive and negative trends that recur often. Specifically, journaling could help you clarify your thoughts and feelings, allowing you to get to know yourself better, reduce stress, or solve problems by looking at them in a new light.
Determine what type of journal would be best for you. You could write with paper and pen or keep a digital journal on your computer. What is important is to put your thoughts down on paper so that you can reflect on them
Step 3. Talk about your life with other people
Sometimes expressing yourself to someone else allows you to take a step back from what you need and want. In addition, other people may enlighten you on certain points that you are not aware of.
If you don't want to tell friends or family about it, consider making an appointment with a therapist. Talk therapy can be very effective, both in dealing with underlying emotional issues and also in bringing your thoughts to life and organizing them better
Step 4. Divide your life into domains
List the main aspects of your social, professional, spiritual, family life, your hobbies, your health, your participation in the community, your charitable acts … Once you have compartmentalized your life into areas, think about it on your level of happiness in each of them. You would need to find a good balance among all the areas of your life that you find important.
Make the phrase “a bit of everything in moderation” your own. Cut back on activities that you don't do in moderation in order to live a more balanced life
Step 5. Think about ways to generate more time for the areas you are leaving behind
For example, let's say you realize that you are not doing enough for your community and for your health. Take some time to think about ways to take more time to improve your life in these specific areas.
- For example, you could list a few charities that you would like to know more about.
- When it comes to your health, you might want to take some time to think about your budget and see if you could afford a gym membership. You could spend some time researching sports teams that you could join in your city.
- If you are particularly busy, you might also think of a way to save additional time or resources. Best to start with the areas where you think you are spending too much time (usually at work).
Step 6. Evaluate your life again in a few months
Take a look back at your life (you can use your diary to do this) and decide if your life is fuller with the changes you have made. The best way to do this is to assess whether you are feeling happier in your life. Remember, you shouldn't think too much about what other people might think about your life. After all, it is you who live it.
Give yourself time to change your life, because it won't be easy. Try to focus on small changes made throughout the year. Once the year has passed, you should have a better idea of what makes you happy
Part 2 of 4: make life plans
Step 1. Practice letting go of the things you can't control
There are inevitably things that are beyond your control that will arise in your life. It's part of life. If you don't have the ability to change certain circumstances, you could always change your attitude towards them. Trying to control things that cannot be controlled can backfire and stress you further.
Whenever you think of something you can't control, write it down on a piece of paper. Place it in a box and move on. Letting go of stressful people or situations will allow you to work on things that you can control
Step 2. Live in the present
Rather than constantly working towards a future goal, think about how you are going to make this day better. If you live too far into the future, you are missing out on your life. Life is only lived in the present moment. It is not recommended to live each day as if it were the last, as this is not true, but it is advisable to spend time each day enjoying the present moment. To live more in the present, you could:
- do one task at a time, avoid doing several things at the same time
- take some time between your daily tasks so that you have time to think and not feel rushed
- spend 5-10 minutes a day doing absolutely nothing other than sitting in silence
- eat slowly and focus on the aromas and textures of your food
Step 3. Do something new every week
Buy a guide to your city's activities, ask your friends or do an online search to find out what there is to do in the area. Take risks and try new activities. Go alone or ask a loved one to accompany you. The most important thing is that you try something new and be aware of it. This behavior can have a lot of benefits, such as:
- give you courage in facing something unknown
- fight boredom
- allow you to grow up with new experiences
Step 4. Learn something new
Take online classes, private lessons, or watch free lessons online. A lifelong learning center could allow you to learn photography, social media, or anything else you've always wanted to learn for a small fee. You might search for courses that interest you on the following sites:
Part 3 of 4: set limits at work
Step 1. Don't work on weekends
Make sure you have 2 days a week to spend with yourself or your family. A weekend of work should be abnormal, not usual. If you can save time in your professional life, you will have more for your other important areas of life.
Keep in mind that work is like gas, it just keeps expanding if you let it. It will take you longer and longer. You can always work more. There will always be more work to do. Just keep work for the weekdays
Step 2. When you get home, turn off all your electronics
Have your family do the same for several hours a day, so you can connect with each other. Studies have shown that checking our messages less makes us happier, so turn off your phone to spend quality time with those you love.
Step 3. Take risks at work
Volunteer to do something or go the extra mile on a project. Showing initiative and using your intellect to the fullest might give you a greater sense of accomplishment.
That said, keep in mind that your life also needs to be balanced. You will need to ask yourself whether it is worth the extra work to achieve something important, even if it means taking time out from other important areas of your life. Only you can answer this question
Step 4. Remember why you are working in the first place
Most of us work so that we can enjoy life. If you spend all of your time working and you don't have time to spend with your family or doing things that you love, then you have to find a way to make it right.
However, if you get a lot of satisfaction from your job and see it as an opportunity to live the life you love, there's no downside to working a lot. What is important is what YOU consider to be important in your life
Part 4 of 4: Be healthier
Step 1. Play sports
Work your heart and muscles for at least 30 minutes a day in order to live longer and healthier lives. Try any of the things below to improve your physique.
- Plan outdoor activities with your family. Engage in fun sports activities several evenings a week or on weekends. Go hiking, biking, exploring your city on foot, or doing some other sport.
- Join an adult sports club. If you fancy being part of a team, join a football, rugby or basketball league. Most cities and neighborhoods have several options. Matches are organized after work or on weekends.
- Try a new workout regimen. If you typically go to the gym, try new gym classes or do your workout outdoors in the form of walking or jogging several days a week. Break your routine.
Step 2. Walk in nature
Being in the midst of the beauty of nature can nourish feelings of admiration and wonderful thoughts. Go out into nature whenever you can, it is good for your health, as well as for feeling wonder.
Step 3. Get plenty of sleep
Get 8 hours of sleep a night, plus an hour to prepare for sleep and wake up. This could make you feel more relaxed and happier. Try to stick to a routine: sticking to your sleep cycles will help you fall asleep every night.
Make sure you create a dark and quiet environment in your bedroom so that you can sleep better. Also, avoid drinking caffeine shortly before bedtime, otherwise you will have a hard time falling asleep
Step 4. Volunteer with a charity
Volunteer your time and connect with the people who need your help. Studies have shown that volunteering can make you happier, increase your empathy, and feel more accomplished.
Search online for a charity or ask in your neighborhood or look at the local newspaper for volunteer opportunities
Step 5. Nurture your relationships and build your support network
Take at least an hour a week to interact with the people who are important to you, without having any distractions. It will increase your mental well-being and decrease your stress. Social support is very important for health.