How to talk to the person you want to seduce when you are shy

How to talk to the person you want to seduce when you are shy
How to talk to the person you want to seduce when you are shy

Anyone can feel intimidated when it comes time to speak with someone they love, especially shy people. However, if you start the conversation on a simple topic, it can be easy, even if you are shy. Self-confidence is the key to success, take a deep breath, be yourself and go for it!


Part 1 of 2: Take courage with both hands

Step 1. Practice saying hello to people

The more you practice it, the easier it will be for you to introduce yourself to others. Improve this skill by giving compliments or saying hello to at least one person a day. Greet your classmates and chat with those sitting next to you. Once you feel more confident, you can try going to say hello to the person you like.

  • Take small steps. Start with a simple hello. Once you feel more confident, ask others how they are doing. Eventually, you will find the courage to go talk to the person you like!
  • It is not mandatory to say "hello". You can also say "hi" or some other greeting.

Step 2. Think about several topics that you can discuss

If you know this person a little bit, think about things they are interested in that you can ask questions about, or things you have in common and can discuss. If you don't know anything about her or him, think about more general topics that you both can easily talk about, like pop culture or the news.

  • For example, if you know she enjoys sports or music, you can ask her about last night's game or her favorite band's upcoming concert.
  • If you are in the same class or participate in the same activity. You can talk about it or use it for a joke. It can help you develop a joke between the two of you or something that you can talk about the next time you see each other.
  • This little preparation doesn't mean you have to write the whole conversation down ahead of time, you have to be present and sincere while you talk to him.

Step 3. Take deep breaths to relax

Shyness can seem like crippling you at times, but taking a deep breath can ease tension and ease your nerves. When your shyness seems too overwhelming, you can take a moment to breathe in and out a few times.

Try to breathe deeply. Inhale for a count of 4, hold your breath for a count of 7, and breathe out for a count of 8

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Step 4. Smile to sound confident

Smiling is a powerful tool in boosting your mood and making you look friendlier and more attractive. A simple smile can even relax your body and improve your outlook. When you feel nervous around the person you like, smile confidently.

  • That doesn't mean you have to smile like a doll all the time. Instead, try to smile quickly to show that you are comfortable around him.
  • Also try to smile with your eyes, it will look more natural.

Part 2 of 2: make the conversation

Step 1. Start with a compliment

If you've never chatted with someone before, it can be difficult to find common topics or a reason to start the conversation. You can start by giving her a compliment or a comment about what she is wearing.

  • If she wears a t-shirt with the logo of a band you like or a place you've been to, you'll have a better excuse to go talk to her. For example, you could say, “I love this band! Have you seen them in concert? Or "New York is so beautiful this time of year, have you ever been there?" "
  • Compliments are easy, as neither of you have to keep the conversation going, but that's an option nonetheless. Now that you've approached her, you can smile at her when she sees you, which can also help you bond.

Step 2. Ask him for a little favor

For example, you can ask if you can borrow a pencil or a piece of paper from him, it's an easy and relaxed way to start a conversation. These kinds of interactions create what is called the “Benjamin Franklin effect”: the person you ask for help will be more likely to like you and develop a connection with you.

Obviously, if you ask someone to do you a favor all the time, you are going to become annoying, so you should try not to do it too often. Once or twice should be enough

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Step 3. Offer to study together

If you're in the same class, studying together can be a more relaxed time to chat over a long period. Before a test, you can ask the person you like if they would like to study with you.

  • For example, you could say to him in a friendly voice, “Hi, what do you think about tomorrow's assignment? Would you like us to study together tonight? "
  • Depending on how private you are, you can go and study in a public place like a library or cafe, or at home.
  • If you've never spoken to her before, you could organize a review group with other classmates and invite her to join you. That way, your invitation stays relaxed instead of letting her know your intentions right off the bat.
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Step 4. Ask him questions

Once you've started the conversation, questions are the best way to move the discussion forward. It will also show her that you are genuinely interested while taking some of the pressure off you. If you're feeling too shy, you might ask a question and let it answer to give you some time to recover.

Here are some things you might want to discuss: interests, hobbies, work, plans for the weekend, or tips, like finding a book to read or a movie to watch

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Step 5. Look her in the eye

If you're shy, it can be hard to make eye contact with each other, but you have to fight the urge to look away. Show her that you are interested in what she or he is saying by looking him or her in the eye during the conversation. If you stare at her too intensely it can be just as damaging as not looking her in the eye at all, which is why you should try looking at her 1/3 of the time while you speak and 2/3 of the time while you speak and 2/3 of the time while you speak. let her talk to you.

  • It is important to look her in the eye because it shows her that you are listening to her as she speaks.
  • It is going to be a bit annoying to be in front of someone who is constantly staring you in the eye, which is why you should try to avoid them.
  • Look away from time to time focusing on something else for a few seconds, it could be an object behind his shoulder or even your knees if you are sitting down.

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