How to flirt without being boring: 8 steps (with pictures)

How to flirt without being boring: 8 steps (with pictures)
How to flirt without being boring: 8 steps (with pictures)

Flirting is a lot of fun. This is very often the step to take before asking someone you are interested in dating. However, flirting can sometimes become boring, especially when it is unwanted, continuous and badly experienced. Lots of people make mistakes when flirting and that dampens the ardor of the one they care about. The worst part is that they don't even realize their mistakes.


Part 1 of 2: Text message

Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 1

Step 1. Choose your words wisely

Don't use words that are too suggestive or flirtatious. Always try to be polite and respectful to each other. Show him that you want to get to know him better. For example, you could use common references to start a conversation. Instead of saying "Hello, how are you", you could say "What's up?" In the manner of Joey in the series Friends. It shows that you have a good sense of humor and that you are on the same page as each other.

Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 2

Step 2. Choose open-ended questions

Prefer them over those that only favor one-word answers. Your goal is to keep the conversation going and the best way to do that is to get the other person to continue to intervene. That said, you should avoid bringing up too personal topics during your first few conversations. Acting this way will make you sound like a strange person. Some of the appropriate questions you can ask are:

  • " How was your day ? "
  • "So what are your favorite hobbies?" "
  • "Where do you like to spend your weekends? "
Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 3

Step 3. Pay attention to grammar and spelling

It's 2005 when you were texting your friends using abbreviations in code form from your flip phone. You probably have a smartphone today or at the very least a slide-out phone with a full keyboard. Write the entire words and use the correct punctuation. Ignoring grammar rules and using SMS language will make you sound like a child.

Another misstep is to use a lot of emoticons. Get into the habit of using these smileys and winks in moderation

Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 4

Step 4. Avoid overtly sexual humor

There is nothing wrong with just hinting at it once in a while, it is even desirable in some cases. However, put aside any joke that clearly refers to sex, especially if it is about someone you would like to have a romantic relationship with.

  • It goes without saying that jokes with racist and ethnic connotations should be banned.
  • Likewise, is it necessary to underline it? Photos of you naked are also to be banned.
Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 5

Step 5. Don't harass each other over the phone

If you send a message to the one you are interested in and do not receive a response within minutes or hours, do not send her another text to ask her if she received your message. Such an attitude is a great signal that characterizes a desperate person, who has no life or worse yet a stalker who is just waiting for the opportunity to reveal himself. It should also be noted, this is boring for your interlocutor.

Part 2 of 2: flirting face to face

Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 6

Step 1. Make eye contact

Eye contact is very important in face-to-face conversations, but it adds something more when it comes to choosing a mate. When you stare at the person you are interested in, you send the message that you are not indifferent to them without however saying it openly. Here are some things not to do:

  • avoid gazing at the other person's body. This can be interpreted as "frolicking", which is rather inconvenient for some people. However, it is okay to take a lingering glance once in a while;
  • do not stare at each other continuously. It's downright scary!
Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 7

Step 2. Start a simple conversation

The latter does not need to be long from the start. It also shouldn't be complicated or make your partner uncomfortable. Here are some tips that will help you in this direction.

  • Don't put yourself at the center of the conversation. It might make your partner see you as arrogant and boring.
  • Get him (her) to talk about him / her. This will not only allow you to learn more about the person, but they will also enjoy the conversation and want it to continue.
  • Avoid bringing up personal or overly sensitive topics like faith, money, and politics. Money is a topic that usually suppresses the urge to continue a conversation (especially when you are bragging or acting desperately). You can bring up the issue of beliefs lightly later on, when each of you feels a little more confident with the other.
Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 8

Step 3. Know when to back up

There is nothing more annoying than someone you don't want to date but who is pushy. Observe the other person's body language closely for clues to the feelings you arouse in them. Some signals are deliberate while others are sent instinctively without the person even realizing it.

  • If the person you are flirting with is a woman and you notice that they are putting their purse between them and you or holding it tight, they are sending you the message that they are not interested in you.
  • The direction in which the body is oriented is also a sign. If her body is facing away from you, even if it's just the way her legs are facing, you better leave her alone.
  • It is also not impossible for her to speak candidly to you and tell you that she is not interested in you. If this happens, just take the day off and be polite.

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