How to seduce a dominant male (with pictures)

How to seduce a dominant male (with pictures)
How to seduce a dominant male (with pictures)

Numerous studies have shown that the difference between "dominant males" (strong, confident, assertive and brilliant) and "dominated males" (weak, hesitant, submissive and less brilliant) does not exist. However, it is true that certain character traits attributed to dominant males attract others: their self-confidence, their success, their morals and their physical strength. These traits are found in both men and women. If you want to date a confident person, you are going to need to recognize these signs of confidence and develop your own confidence.


Method 1 of 2: Find a confident partner

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Step 1. Realize that women are much better than men in many areas

If you are a woman who is attracted to men, you are going to find that the number of men who have a higher status than yours decreases rapidly. Women now surpass men when it comes to hiring rate, education and sometimes even salary. Know that there are going to be fewer and fewer men available who have done better than the women they date.

On the other hand, it means that you will face stiffer competition to seduce successful men. It could also change your definition of success. Certain character traits like kindness, sensitivity, and adaptability may be more sought after by women in the near future

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Step 2. Estimate his prestige as much as his personality

Studies have shown that a person's prestige (i.e. the esteem they earn from a certain group of people) may be just as important as their confidence or success for their dominant personality. If you're attracted to confident, successful men, consider the opinion of coworkers, superiors, friends, and neighbors of your potential partner. If he's valued by his community, that's a good sign that you'll find him attractive.

It is possible that a certain person has prestige in one area of ​​his life and not in others. For example, he might be a great athlete, but be bad at work. He may be considered a very good employee by his boss, but not a good musician. Think about areas where prestige is important to you

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Step 3. Remember that most people are a mixture of "dominant" traits and "dominated" traits

Very few people now believe that the world can be split in two: dominant males on one side and dominated males on the other. Typically, males can behave like dominant males in areas of their life where they have been successful, and dominated males in areas where they are still struggling. For example, a man might be dominant at work, but not in his private life. Another might be a dominant male as a political activist, but not in sports. Instead of looking for traits of the Dominant, you should instead think about areas that are important to you and find yourself someone who is assertive in those areas. Ask yourself if you want to find:

  • someone who excels in sports and sports activities
  • someone who has confidence in his creativity and his art
  • someone who has found success at work
  • someone who has the talent to fix what breaks at home
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Step 4. Realize that there are going to be setbacks too

Even though the character traits associated with dominant males can indicate success, there can also be unwanted traits that are part of this kind of character. For example, he might be stubborn, unwilling to receive criticism, independent, and extremely critical. If you're a sensitive woman who values ​​feelings, an dominant male might not be the kind of partner you're looking for. Think carefully about the things that make you happy in a relationship.

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Step 5. Try to date men who have different personalities

Not everyone finds self-confidence and success attractive, and you may be drawn to some type of self-confidence and not others. To determine exactly what appeals to you, you should consider dating different personality types to find out which one you prefer.

  • Consider signing up on a dating site to find a wider range of men.
  • Sign up to participate in activities or volunteer to meet different people who share your interests.
  • Ask your friends to introduce you to men you could date.
  • Take a personality test to help you understand your personality type and the personality type you would get along with.
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Step 6. Think about your safety when going out on a date

When you first meet someone, you need to make sure you stay safe and protected. Never go to a private place with someone you don't know. Only accept appointments in public places such as restaurants or cinemas. Make sure you know the schedule before going to the appointment. Consider letting a friend know your route so they know where you are.

Trust yourself and trust your instincts. If you don't feel safe, leave immediately and call a friend to pick you up

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Step 7. Recognize the signs of confidence

A truly confident person isn't going to be the one to gain the most attention or brag about their accomplishments. Someone with a healthy dose of self-confidence might even step back, listen carefully, and learn from their mistakes. Here's what a healthy, confident man should do.

  • He listens instead of talking all the time.
  • He knows his strengths and weaknesses.
  • Sometimes he asks for help.
  • He doesn't judge others too harshly or in an insulting way.
  • He knows how to defend himself.
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Step 8. Recognize the signs of narcissism and arrogance

Sometimes it can be easy not to tell the difference between being assertive and arrogant. The major difference between the two, however, is that a healthy, confident man will feel comfortable with who he is, and he won't feel unsettled or unsafe. On the other hand, an arrogant man derives his self-esteem from what others say about him, which is why he will come across as more demanding, more domineering and unable to take criticism. You should avoid men who:

  • insult others to feel good
  • do not know how to accept loss or criticism
  • ask for attention and praise
  • interrupt others during discussions
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Step 9. Ask her to arrange the next meeting

If you like strong men who know how to take charge, consider asking him to set up your next date to surprise you. See what happens when he arranges your next date himself. It's a great way to see if you are both interested in the same things.

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Step 10. Consider asking her to take the reins in bed

If you enjoy being dominated sexually, you might tell him that you would like him to act more dominant in your intimate life. It is important that you do this safely: make sure you discuss your wants and limitations together clearly and that you both agree at all times. Decide on a word the two of you can use to end your lovemaking if either of you feels uncomfortable.

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Step 11. Participate in competitive activities while you are together

If you and your partner feel confident and enjoy competing, find outings that will allow you to compete against each other and compete against each other. It could even lead to arousal and sexual attraction. Do your best (don't lose on purpose) and don't hesitate to brag when you win. Here are some ideas for going out.

  • Paintball or laser game
  • The minigolf
  • A fundraiser for a charity
  • A board game that requires strategy, like chess
  • Make sure your partner isn't a sore loser. If he's having a hard time finding himself in the loser's shoes, that means he's arrogant and insecure.
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Step 12. Discover new activities and places

If you've found a confident man, there's a good chance he'll introduce you to new experiences, new ideas, and new places. Try to enjoy the moments you spend discovering these new things with him and you might even discover a new passion or a new hobby.

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Step 13. Pay attention to controlling behavior

If you find that you are stifling your own opinions, ideas, or thoughts, chances are you will find yourself in a relationship based on control and not confidence and trust. Never get lost in a relationship. A healthy relationship is based on mutual respect that helps you both grow. If your partner does not help you develop, he is not at all sure of himself, on the contrary, he is a person who wants to control and dominate you. Here are some signs of relationships where one partner is dominated by the other.

  • He lies
  • He harasses you
  • He cuts you off or he talks too much
  • It keeps you away from your loved ones
  • He doesn't talk to you

Method 2 of 2: Make the relationship last

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Step 1. Don't submit too much during arguments

A person who exhibits the traits of the dominant male can sometimes behave in a stubborn, impatient, and demanding manner, especially during arguments. When it falls into this kind of negative pattern, it is important for you not to submit or apologize. Instead, you should remain calm and critical as you present your point of view. If necessary, go away, but don't flatter, support, or give up too easily. Here's what you might say to him.

  • I realize that we are not going to come to an agreement tonight. Let's keep talking about it tomorrow if you don't mind.
  • I know we don't agree on this, but here are the reasons I think I'm right …
  • I am happy to find a compromise, but I am not ready to give up the values ​​in which I believe. It's important that you also want to come to a compromise if I want to too.
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Step 2. Don't accept his aggressive behavior

Be careful if he behaves aggressively by breaking things, threatening yourself, or frequently raising his voice so much that you start to cry. This is not acceptable behavior and you deserve better than that.

Go away immediately if you feel threatened. Let him know that what he is doing is unacceptable and seek help outside of your relationship, such as a friend, the authorities, or calling a line that helps people who are victims of domestic violence

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Step 3. Establish an equal relationship

In general, people are happy in their relationship when it is built on an egalitarian structure. In this case, both partners share the household chores, have a say in important decisions, and both may have jobs outside the home. These relationships are less likely to end in divorce or breakdown.

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Step 4. Find a healthy way to explore dominance and submission, especially in your intimate life and in household chores

Even though relationships where the two partners are equal are the most successful in the long term, they can also lead to a decrease in libido and sexual desire. If you are drawn to situations where you are dominated, consider finding ways to express that dominance, even if it doesn't impact the decisions you make on a daily basis. Here are a few examples you could think about.

  • Introduce dominant / dominated games during sex. Make sure to discuss your preferences and limits beforehand with your partner, and that you can end this game if you are no longer comfortable using a specific word.
  • Find outlets to play traditional gender roles. For example, a woman could dress in feminine clothes and a man in sports clothes.
  • Divide household chores by dividing them according to gender. If you are a woman in a heterosexual relationship, consider taking on tasks traditionally reserved for women, such as cooking and washing dishes. Ask your partner to take on tasks that are traditional for men, like repairing the car. It could increase your sexual attraction.
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Step 5. Prepare for his outspokenness

Many people who exhibit “dominant male” traits communicate more directly. They tend not to go four ways. Try not to forget him so that you don't feel offended if he says something straight to you. Rather, remember that direct communication helps the relationship avoid patterns of passive aggressive behavior or mutual discontent.

If your partner's outspokenness insults or hurts you, these are signs that they are going beyond direct communication and actually wanting to hurt you. This is not a sign of confidence, but of aggression and you should ask yourself if it is really worth your time and energy

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Step 6. Communicate clearly

Tell your partner what appeals to you about him and his confidence. Make sure you tell her in a straightforward way what makes you happy in your relationship.

  • For example, if you appreciate his athletic skills, tell him and support him in these athletic endeavors.
  • If you're drawn to his chivalrous demeanor, tell him you love it when he buys you flowers, jewelry, or surprises you on vacation in an exotic location. Express your joy and pleasure when he shows this kind of behavior.
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Step 7. Set healthy boundaries

If you and your partner are confident people, you are likely to have cravings for independence and activities that you do not necessarily share. Make sure you both maintain some independence in some areas, even if you share other activities. Keep up with your friends, your passions, and spend some time being apart from time to time. These healthy boundaries will help your relationship to last and will also help you maintain your self-confidence.

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Step 8. Transform your confidence in yourself into confidence in your relationship

You are not sure of yourself because you can show that you are strong, but rather because you are honest about who you are and your own needs. Confident people aren't afraid to build a lasting bond with the right person. If the person you're dating is being honest with their feelings and wanting to engage with you, that's a good sign that they are confident and know what they want.


  • Just because you're dating a confident person doesn't mean you have to lose your self-confidence. In fact, it would be better for your relationship if you both kept your own independence and confidence as well as your own limits.
  • Traits associated with dominant personalities can be attractive, but they also may not be. Try to meet different personalities to find out which traits you prefer most in a relationship.

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