3 ways to recognize that you have a crush on someone

3 ways to recognize that you have a crush on someone
3 ways to recognize that you have a crush on someone

Having a crush on someone can be both exciting and terrifying. Sometimes it's hard to tell whether or not you have a crush on someone. Read on to find out whether or not you have a crush on someone else.


Part 1 of 3: what is a crush

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Step 1. Know what a crush is

One dictionary defines a crush as "a burning desire to be with someone who is found to be very attractive and very original." A crush can lead to extreme emotions, such as feeling awfully shy and incredibly euphoric at the same time. You can't choose who you have a crush on, but you can decide your reaction once you've achieved your crush on someone.

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Step 2. Know that there are different kinds of crushes

The term crush is used over and over again. It could mean that you just have a soft spot for someone or that it really is the love of your life.

  • Friendly crush: It's important that you know that not all passionate feelings are necessarily love. You can feel very close to someone without actually being in love with that person and that is a feeling in its own right. Wanting to always be around someone might just mean you've gone from being a comrade to being a true friend. It is completely normal to feel a great affection for a friend and to want to be in their company all the time.
  • The idolatrous crush: When you idealize a person (such as a celebrity, teacher, or classmate who has done something great), you may find that you have intense feelings about that person and of what she did. We can confuse this type of emotion with a feeling of love because of its intensity. It is only natural to feel a great admiration around someone who has done something amazing or can teach you a lot of great things. Most of the time, it is better to allow a little time to pass before analyzing these feelings in depth. In general, when you've spent a lot of time with this person, you will have learned a lot from them and you might feel like you are on an equal footing with them. You might find that your crush has settled down around this person.
  • Passing crush: It's only natural to be attracted to other people. Even if you have a great romantic relationship, you can still feel attracted to someone other than your partner. This type of attraction is what we call a flirtation, this new person can seem very interesting and probably is, but that doesn't mean that you should question your romantic relationship or, if you are solo., to drop everything to try and date that person. These passes are often linked to a purely physical attraction to someone.
  • Love crush: Sometimes having a crush on someone means that you really love that person, and that's on a romantic level. A love crush means that you seek to be with that person all the time, and more than on a purely friendly level, you really want to be that person's romantic partner. You probably have a love crush if you dream of kissing her, taking her hand or hugging her.
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Step 3. Find out if your crush is serious

In doing so, you can know the best way to act, whether it is by keeping your feelings to yourself or by sharing how you feel with the object of your passion. Read the following to help you know how deep you feel about this person.

Part 2 of 3: What to do when you're near your crush

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Step 1. See your behavior around the person you seem to have a crush on

Pay attention to your instinctive physical reactions around your crush. Everyone will react differently, and it will often be unconscious. In general, when you have a crush, you will react in two different ways, either you will become awfully shy and you will have lost your tongue, or you will be very outgoing.

  • Shy Behavior: Do you suddenly feel like you want to stick yourself in a mouse hole when your crush is around? Do you blush right away, not daring to look up to focus on that very interesting stain of dirt stuck to the floor? Do you suddenly feel like you have an empty mind and nothing interesting to say? All of these reactions are indicative of a big crush.
  • Outgoing Behavior: Do you suddenly feel the urge to tease the object of your crush? Do you suddenly need to talk a lot in this person's presence to get their attention? These, too, are symptoms of a big crush. Make sure, however, that you don't make your crush uncomfortable by doing this, don't tease the object of your flame too much, as he or she wouldn't want to date you.
  • Flirtatious Behavior: Do you feel like your crush absolutely has to notice what you're wearing or the way you styled your hair that day? Do you feel the need to giggle and make jokes? You might feel the need to look as good as possible to get your crush to notice you. Fiddling with your hair and fluttering your eyelashes is always a sign of a big crush.
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Step 2. See how you feel in his presence

The most common signs of a crush are tingling all over your body when that special someone is around or feeling your heart pounding in your chest to leave you blazing and euphoric.

  • Do you suddenly feel nervous and excited at the same time? You might feel like you want to hug that person or just don't want to let go of them. These are perfectly normal reactions when you have a crush.
  • Do you have the feeling that you would give anything to be near this person?
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Step 3. Notice your reactions with your friends and with your crush

Having a crush can make you suddenly want to be the center of attention in a discussion or stick your mouth shut when your crush is nearby. What do you do when you are talking to a group of friends and the person you like approaches you? If you really have a crush, you might have one of the following reactions.

  • Do you suddenly need to monopolize the attention? You might find yourself leading the discussion so you can talk about a really cool thing you did to impress your crush. You could even cut a friend off so that your anecdote can be heard. You may also want to get your crush's attention as much as possible so that they only have eyes for you.
  • Do you suddenly feel like your mouth is sewn up? When you have a crush, sometimes you can be embarrassed and have nothing more to say. You certainly have a crush, if you're usually quite talkative, but lose your tongue around the person you're interested in.
  • Do you feel like your friends have vanished when your crush approaches you? You could be surrounded by a lot of people only to end up seeing your crush. You could smile all the time, even if what other people are saying isn't funny. You may have trouble paying attention to what you're told if you're asked something because your crush is around.
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Step 4. See if you are making the effort to look after your appearance

A clear sign of a crush is wanting to look your best around that person. Do you spend more time getting dressed and getting ready in the morning? Have you bought any new clothes that might appeal to your crush? Do you take extra time to style your hair or make up in case you might come across your crush that day? If so, you really have a crush on that person.

Part 3 of 3: What to do when you're away from your crush

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Step 1. See if your crush is all on your mind

You most likely have a big crush on this person if you find yourself constantly thinking about them, and more than you'd like.

  • You might be having dinner with your family, but you're not paying attention to the discussion because you're wondering what your crush is doing.
  • You might be going out with your friends while secretly wishing you were with your crush instead.
  • When you go to bed, do you think about the emotion you would feel if you could kiss your crush before falling asleep?
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Step 2. Notice if you talk about your crush a lot or not at all

Do you feel like you are constantly telling your friends about him? One obvious sign is to constantly bring up that particular person to your friends. It would be a good idea to tell your best friends about your crush, if you don't mind too much. They can help you better understand how you are feeling or may have great ideas to help you get closer and get to know the person you like better.

Don't talk about your crush with just anyone. Don't chat about it with anyone who comes first. If you do, we could repeat it to him, which could embarrass you. Only tell your best friends, the ones you trust the most

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Step 3. See if you've changed anything in your life by thinking about your crush

Did you change some habits in the hope of getting his attention?

  • Do you walk past his locker a hundred times hoping to see him?
  • Did you change your route to go to class because you know he (or she) is taking this path?
  • You may have suddenly felt an interest in a subject that interests your crush, such as photography or rock climbing.
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Step 4. Pay attention to your reactions when someone brings up your crush in a discussion

You can often feel intense excitement when it comes to your crush in a discussion. How do you react if we talk about him?

Do you feel upset? Do you feel like you have butterflies in your stomach? To feel like your heart is going to jump out of your chest? Are you blushing or giggling? Have you lost your tongue You have a big crush on someone if any of these things happen to you

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Step 5. Pay attention to your daydreams throughout the day

There is a difference between thinking about someone and fantasizing about someone. Thinking about someone means that you wonder what that person is doing or how they are feeling. You fantasize when you imagine things that could happen between the person and you. People who have a crush fantasize a lot about the object of their passion.

You most definitely have a crush if you fantasize about that particular person and imagine everything you could do with them, kiss them, take their hand, or any other romantic behavior

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Step 6. Notice if anything reminds you of your crush

It's an obvious sign if reading a book, listening to a song or a movie reminds you of that special someone.

  • You have a crush if you listen to a love song and tell yourself you feel the exact same way.
  • You have a crush if you watch a movie like Titanic and see yourself there with him (her) instead of Jack and Rose.
  • You have a crush if you read Romeo and Juliet and immediately identify with the desperate love of the main characters.
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Step 7. See how you feel after reading this article

Did you think of a specific person while reading this article? If your answer is yes, then you have a crush on her.


  • Don't panic when you realize you have a crush on someone. Get used to these feelings before taking any initiative.
  • Don't confuse a crush with a friendship! A friendly crush happens just as easily with the opposite sex as a feeling of love.
  • Get to know him better. The person you are attracted to is not necessarily the one you think you have or put on a pedestal.

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