3 ways to suggest someone to go out

3 ways to suggest someone to go out
3 ways to suggest someone to go out

Offering someone a date is a big step in starting a new friendship. It could be a classmate, co-worker, or someone you met at a party. Even though it might be a little scary at first, you shouldn't be afraid. You just need to let the person know that you would like to spend time with them in the future or invite them to spend time with you at a specific upcoming event. Be brave and invite someone to join you for a spontaneous outing.


Method 1 of 3: Suggest someone go out in the near future

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Step 1. Ask the question in a relaxed manner

If you've been planning to invite the person for a while, don't be too blunt. Stay calm so you don't seem like your whole life depends on her response. Take a deep breath and ask the question by speaking to her as you normally would in any situation.

  • You will sound too impatient if you say, “You're so cool and I really want to spend more time with you. "
  • Be casual when asking a classmate. You might say, "Every time we talk, this guy is buzzing a lot over there, they better see us after school." "
  • If you had a good time with the person at a party, you could say, "That was great today, do you want to see each other another day?" "
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Step 2. Use a common interest as an excuse to see the person again

You may have difficulty inviting someone out without having a specific reason for doing so. But if you know you share a passion with him, use that to your advantage. Tell her that it would be fun to do the activity (that you have in common) together at some point.

  • If you constantly chat with a coworker about scenes from a TV series, ask them if they want to come see it with you. Under these conditions, you need to be sure that the two of you are free at the time of the broadcast and that the series has a well-defined length of time, so as to let him go as soon as the series ends.
  • Maybe you've met someone who, like you, attends the same gym. Since you go there at around the same time, ask him if he wants to train with you. You might say, “It would be nice if each of us watched the other do so as to encourage each other to work harder. "
  • In another context, you might say, “I realized that we always paint in this studio often at the same time. Don't you want to join me someday so we can paint something together? "
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Step 3. Be confident that you will get a positive response

It is not good to suggest someone to see them again if you think inside yourself that they are not going to accept. Keep in mind that you are a fun person to date and that you will have a yes to your request. Indeed, if you have confidence in yourself and ask her directly, she will be more open to respond positively than if you seem shy.

  • Don't say something like, "You're probably busy most of the time and have a lot of friends, but we could date one of his four if you want to." It's okay if you have other programs. "
  • For example, think of a coworker you'd like to spend time with. Take him to the break room and say, "We should find something interesting to do outside of here." It's simple, and it shows your interest and leaves room for it to happen.
  • If you're with someone at a club every week, you could say, “See you here every week. We could go and have something to eat together after. Again, this is blunt and shows that you assume he will be interested.

Method 2 of 3: Suggest someone go out at a specific time

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Step 1. Tell the person when it is convenient for you to go out

When you ask someone on a date, you need to have a clear idea of ​​when you will be free. Think of three dates that you would like to go somewhere in the next two after making the date. Suggest these dates and ask if he is free on any of these days.

  • If you offer her to go out (one of these four) without giving her a specific time, it is less likely to happen. But if you give it three specific dates, there's a good chance you'll get a "yes" to one of them.
  • You can keep one evening a week free in case there is a possibility to make an appointment. For example, you could say to him "I'm free every Tuesday, we could see you next Tuesday." "
  • You could also say something like, "I'm looking for something to do in the next couple of Saturdays, do you want to go shopping downtown and then go to lunch?" "
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Step 2. Invite the person to an upcoming event

If you've already planned a party or meeting, even though you're not the host, invite her to the event. Since it will be held at a specific time, if she is not able to come, she will only decline to attend and not to say "no" to you (to yourself). In addition, the event allows you to spend time in a more relaxed atmosphere than during a one-on-one.

  • If you are going to a sports party, do not hesitate to invite her. It's an event open to everyone, organized at a specific time and there will be a lot of people to socialize with.
  • If you haven't planned anything special, organize something with a group of friends to invite the person you want to get to know.
  • It doesn't have to be a private event. Ask if she would like to go to a festival or just take a walk. The person is likely to agree, because it is a quiet event open to the public.
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Step 3. Schedule a date for the weekend

People can have set schedules for the days of the week. However, they are often more available on weekends. If you only usually see the person Monday through Friday, invite them to do something over the weekend. So you can think about doing something in the morning, afternoon or evening.

  • Weekends are great, as people are generally more open to staying later on Friday and Saturday evenings and having more free time during the day on Saturday and Sunday.
  • In addition, it usually has more events on weekends like theater performances, fairs, festivals, concerts and parties.
  • You might say, “After this long week, I need to let off steam this weekend. Do you want to go to the shooting range on Friday after work? "

Method 3 of 3: Suggest someone go out on a spontaneous date

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Step 1. Ask the person if they want to eat with you

If you're at work or leaving class at lunchtime, invite her to lunch with you. If the two of you had something to eat, you could sit down and eat together. Otherwise, ask her if she wants you to go out for lunch. It works because you two need to eat and it's a way to do something together without feeling the tension of a real date.

  • It does not have to be planned right away. You can ask her to have dinner with you after work or meet her after a few hours, when she is finished with what she is doing.
  • If you are leaving a party late at night, ask her if she wants something to eat at a nearby restaurant.
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Step 2. Suggest an outing after a class or meeting

If you're working together, going to the same meeting, or taking the same classes, ask her if she'd like to do something when you're done. Make the invitation during or shortly after the event.

  • The person can be very busy, but it often happens that people are free at the end of an event. Take advantage of this time to make him your invitation.
  • You could say, "I have some free time after class, do you want to go for a walk in the yard?" It's a simple way to spend time with her, since the question came up spontaneously.
  • When you're about to leave after work or a meeting, you might say, “I'm going downtown for a drink. You want to come ? Since it is common to have a drink after work, this question will seem normal to him.
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Step 3. Ask him to accompany you where you are going

Whenever you're about to do something (go somewhere) and see someone you wanted to spend time with, ask them to join you. Since you would go anyway, it's okay if your invite is rejected. If it's someone you see every day, the options are endless for inviting them.

  • It works when you go out (your house) to watch a movie, go for a hike, or when you leave the office to play tennis.
  • Make a habit of inviting people to accompany you when you go somewhere. After a while, they will get used to it and eventually accept and join you.

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