It can be hard to stand out when you're shy. At the same time, you might want to avoid people and stand out from the crowd. However, it is a difficult balance to manage. To really want to stand out, you need to put in the effort to stand out from the crowd, increase your social contacts, and change your mindset about your social interactions and shyness.
Method 1 of 3: Stand out from the crowd
Step 1. Be yourself
You don't have to change your personality to get noticed by others. You have the right to be introverted or shy. Everyone is different, and not everyone can be outgoing and surrounded by other people all the time. Respect who you are and love yourself with your unique shyness. Many people find shyness nice and sexy. Not everyone is drawn to a life of parties and social contact.
Be aware that your shyness can actually enhance the positive impression you leave on others. Also explain to them that you are working on your shyness, as this can help you increase your positivity and get noticed
Step 2. Wear something unique that will get you noticed
Dress in a way that reflects your personality and inner beauty. Sometimes you can find yourself stuck in your own dress habits and forget to explore new ways to express yourself through your clothes and jewelry.
- If you like bright colors, you can wear yellow, orange, or pink instead of basic colors like black, brown, blue, gray, and white.
- Try not to overdo it (eg putting on too much makeup or wearing neon clothes) you want to stand out for who you are, not leave a negative impression.
- If it helps you feel unique or more confident, you can try a new haircut, dye, or style.
Step 3. Expose yourself
Many shy people prefer to shave walls or hide in a corner of the room. Don't hide from the view of others, expose yourself in the middle of the room, where others can see you!
If you're worried about being alone or looking weird, find someone you know and go see them to chat
Step 4. Show positive body language
Communication in general is largely non-verbal, which is why it is especially important to focus on the impression you make with your body.
- Smile and use positive facial expressions, such as showing your attention. Reflect other people's emotions, it might show them that you understand them.
- Do not cross your arms and legs. If you cross your arms or legs, it indicates that you are closing yourself off to others. It might even indicate that you are angry.
- Instead of curling up on yourself and slouching down, take up as much space as possible with your body, it shows your confidence and power.
- Haptics - communication through touch - are a great way to stand out from the crowd and show others that you love them. You can hug people, clap their hand, or put your hand on their shoulder. Make sure the contact is appropriate and that it doesn't bother the person you are touching.
Method 2 of 3: Increase your social contact
Step 1. Meet the people you already know
Confidence is a major element in overcoming your shyness in order to stand out from the crowd and to be noticed by others. Instead of joining a group of strangers, try practicing methods of getting noticed with people you already feel comfortable with.
- Discuss your shyness with a friend and your concerns about not getting noticed enough.
- Let a friend or family member know that you want to stand out and ask them for advice on how to do it.
Step 2. Be prepared
A plan can help you feel less shy and more assertive when you interact with others. Think about the possible interactions you might have in a certain situation, and think about what you might say or do to deal with them.
- Think of a topic to break the ice if you're feeling nervous meeting strangers or chatting with people you don't know well enough yet. For example, you could ask a question about a current event to start the conversation: "Did you see what happened on the news last night?" »You can also chat about movies or series that you have watched recently. There's a good chance you can find one that interests you both.
- Always prepare for the unforeseeable. If the teacher or someone else calls you, don't hesitate and don't hide, although it may seem odd, others will think that you are more normal if you answer confidently even if you are wrong.
Step 3. Meet new people
You won't be able to stand out if you avoid interactions with others. Chatting with people you don't know are a great way to get noticed and overcome your shyness.
- Look people in the eye and just say "hi" with a smile.
- Show others that you like or care about them. Listen to the other and nod your head or use some other way to show them that you are listening.
- Ask questions and say that person's name, people love to have their name spoken.
- Discuss something that appeals to the other person or to yourself and move the discussion forward.
Step 4. Use social networks
Communicating on the Internet can help reduce your shyness and get noticed.
Facebook is one way to meet new people, but don't let Facebook do all of the work for you because it will make your shyness worse. Don't rely completely on the Internet for your social interactions
Step 5. Pretend you're extroverted
Many shy people find that they can overcome their shyness by forcing themselves to be extroverted. However, this is not a quick fix.
You can feel sure of yourself by pretending that you are. Play the comedy. It works and at some point you won't need to pretend anymore
Step 6. Avoid taking substances to help you
Some people use alcohol or drugs to feel less inhibited. It helps you feel more confident in the short run, but doesn't help you overcome your shyness or get noticed in the long run. If you rely on alcohol or other substances to be comfortable in social situations, it will become essential and it will be difficult for you to get rid of this addiction.
Step 7. Join a group that interests you
You can use a group situation to practice getting noticed by others.
- You can find a group on meetup.com.
- Find classes for exercise like yoga, Zumba, or rock climbing.
Step 8. Seek professional help if needed
If your shyness is excessive and causing the onset of social anxiety, including worrying about negative judgments from others, a professional can help.
- Contact your mutual and ask them for a list of the therapists they take care of.
- If you don't have a health insurance fund, you can do some research to find associations that offer free or inexpensive psychological care.
Method 3 of 3: Change your mindset
Step 1. Change your anxious thoughts
Some shy people may have negative thoughts that prevent them from engaging in social interactions. They may think, "I feel inhibited by other people," "I'm not interested in other people," or "I have a hard time finding things to say when talking with others."
- Notice the negative thoughts you have when talking with others. Look at thought patterns that might produce anxiety or nervousness.
- Find alternative thoughts to use when you notice that you are having a negative thought.
Step 2. Rest assured
Autosuggestion can help you deal with your shyness in social situations, which can help you feel less shy and get noticed more often.
- If you are feeling shy or anxious, you may say to yourself, “I feel anxious, but I know I can survive this”.
- If you want to stand out, but feel anxious, you might say to yourself, “I feel shy, but I want other people to notice me. I know I can stand in the center of the room. I can manage my anxiety and get noticed. "
- During the times when you are not feeling sure of yourself, you may think, “I deserve the friendship and love of others even though I am shy. I am interesting. I am extraordinary”.
Step 3. Learn necessary social skills
When you have nothing else to do, you can work on improving your social skills. Do your best to smile, ask questions, and listen to others.
- You can also take social skills development classes or take group therapy.
- Toastmasters is a great resource to help people feel more comfortable speaking in public.