Have you ever wanted to get rid of someone, but nothing you've tried has been effective? It could be a person who is a little tiring who thinks he is your friend or a boy who has a big crush on you when he does not interest you or it could be a girl who has started following you everywhere.. If you want to get rid of someone you don't like, the easiest way is to either confront them or avoid them until they understand. But if she really can't figure it out, here are some slightly vicious techniques you can use.
Method 1 of 3: Confront the person
Step 1. Plan what you are going to say
If you think you see her and tell her that you don't want to date her, you need to plan what you are going to say. If you suddenly get carried away or choose your words incorrectly, you may not sound believable enough and the person may think you don't really mean it. You're going to tell her that you don't want to see her anymore, so think carefully about the best way to do that.
- If the person is just really boring and you don't dare tell them, say that this friendship isn't right for you, that you aren't happy with it, or that you want to spend some time without that person. For real.
- If there is a more concrete reason, for example she makes you uncomfortable or she talks about herself all the time or does not listen to what is said to her, or even she is rude to you, you can tell him directly.
- If you don't feel like being honest, you can too. Tell him that you don't have time for your friends, that you are having personal issues right now and that you need to be alone or that you want to focus on your studies.
Step 2. Tell her that you are ending this friendship
Pick a place and time when you are alone and say what you have to say. Stay a little behind, cross your arms in front of you to show that you are uncompromising. Don't let her think she'll be able to find favor with your eyes later or promise to change, don't even let her touch you.
- Be quick. Don't give him a lot of time to react.
- Look her in the eye. Show him that you mean what you say.
Step 3. Help her find another friend
If you want to be nice after talking to her, you can encourage her to go see a sports club or other activity, other places where she can meet people. This may be beneficial for that person, but also for you. However, only do this if you feel bad that you dumped that person like that.
If the person is dating, they'll forget you in the blink of an eye
Step 4. Don't change your mind
If you've decided to cut all ties with that person for good (after eventually pushing them in other directions), don't reverse your decision. Don't let her show up unexpectedly and follow you to a cafe, or even encourage you to have a drink. No means no, without exception. If the person continues to bother you, you should not threaten them, but be determined and confident in your decision.
Method 2 of 3: Avoid the person
Step 1. Ignore his calls
No matter how many times she tries to reach you, by phone or text, don't answer, even if she looks desperate. If the person follows you around, make it clear to them that you are answering your calls and messages well and are therefore deliberately ignoring them. If she asks you "Have you received my message?" You must look confused and a little lost, like you don't know what it is. It should help you get your point across.
Step 2. Ignore the person on social media
Whatever comments the person makes on your Facebook wall, in your photos, or if they tweet about something you wrote, don't react. If she has made a comment among others that other people have left, you must "like" all comments except her own. Make it clear that you don't want anything to do with that person, whether it's virtual or face-to-face.
Step 3. Avoid places the person usually goes
If you know that she often goes to a certain bar or cafe or has planned to go to a mutual friend's party or always goes to the movies on Friday nights, then avoid going there.. If you don't go where the person is going, you decrease your chances of meeting them. If it's still around, you'll have a harder time getting rid of it.
Step 4. Change Your Habits
Stop eating at the same place for lunch, at the same restaurant in the evening or at the same bar. If the person you are trying to avoid knows your habits, they will know where to find you and it will be more difficult to get rid of you. While you don't need to turn your whole life upside down for that person, if you make a few changes in your habits, you might be able to make some improvements in your life while leaving the person out of it.
- If the person always sits next to you at lunchtime, try getting your friends to sit with you farther away than usual so they don't find you.
- If you always eat out with friends on Friday nights, try to find another restaurant on the other side of town without the person knowing.
- If the person follows you around the halls, change the route.
Step 5. Make new friends
If your friends really like her or are too nice to her to be honest, you might want to make new friends or even join another group. The person shouldn't be following you if you are dating completely different people. And if you have new friends, normally she shouldn't follow you to new places you go.
Method 3 of 3: Get drunk
Step 1. Cry a lot
You must cry or be clearly upset every time the person is there. Tell him how miserable you feel, the whole world is awful and unfair, and you can't stop crying and miserable. The person might be flattered at first that they can help you, but if you continue like this for weeks, they will eventually pull away from themselves.
Step 2. Tell him how awesome you are
Everyone loves narcissistic people. Spend a lot of time talking about yourself, saying how sexy you are and that a lot of people adore you and that you are going to get rich and famous in a very, very short time. Admire yourself constantly, powder your nose, regularly notice how beautiful you are and turn around to check that you are wearing the coolest outfit in the world.
- Say "me" and "I" as often as possible and cut her off when she talks about her.
- When the person talks about them, seem like you don't understand, as if you really don't see how this could concern you.
Step 3. Be a drag
The cannonballs are the best people there are. Do elaborate plans by promising the person they can count on you. When the time comes, put him down, don't answer his calls. The next day, say “Oh I completely forgot! You can also give a really bad excuse like "I had to wash my hair" or "I really couldn't stop watching The Young and the Restless."
The person should let go of you right away
- Before ceasing all contact, make sure you have collected any belongings you may have left with him.
- If you think that she is dangerous or that she threatens you by saying to you: "I will destroy you if you do not go out and have me", go to the police.
- Just try to ignore it and see other people.
- Tell her that your friendship is not a good idea, and that it is not a good thing for any of you.
- Don't be extremely mean. Putting someone down is not good and if on top of that you ask your friends to do it too, it is even worse. Don't make her feel uncomfortable, just tell her that you don't like her and don't want to see her all the time.
- Don't let it hang around. The sooner you end this relationship, the better. Or you can continue to go through it and let her think you like it.
- If you feel threatened or harassed, file a complaint.
- Try to understand what she is feeling, put yourself in her shoes. This person may be very lonely and looking for friends. This prevents her from being herself in your presence, which you can misinterpret.
- If you choose to see her in the face, practice in front of a mirror.
- Say right away, “I don't want to be friends with you, I don't love you. "
- Be careful what you say. Walls have ears, and people might not want to talk to you anymore if they think you are mean or obnoxious. Choose what to say carefully.
- Be aware that your other relationships can be affected. Do you have a close friend in common? Trying to get rid of this person could affect your relationship with your friend.
- If you are dealing with someone who has feelings for you, your best bet is to go see them and tell them that it is not mutual. You will avoid being criticized for playing with his feelings.
- Do not underestimate the theory of the six degrees of separation, do not break all of your bonds, life is not over and the world is small.