It is usually difficult to know what to do when we know for sure that a girl is interested in us. Is it better to play it cool? Should we avoid it? In fact, things can seem slightly complicated when it comes to feelings, but luckily there are steps you can take. You could talk to her in person or use body language to communicate with her. Also, you could make use of digital tools to show her that you like her too or not.
Method 1 of 2: Show him interest in return
Step 1. Start the conversation
Do it if you want to get to know her better. In case the two of you aren't so close, but it's obvious that she's interested in you, start slowly by talking about your common interests. This will help break the ice and make the situation less awkward. From there, you could create a bond and have it develop gradually.
- If you are on the soccer team and they are on the school volleyball team, you might start talking about sports.
- You could talk about the last class you had together by saying something like, “I'm glad this chapter is over. What did you think of the book we read on this subject? "
Step 2. Give him compliments every now and then
A single sincere compliment can be of great help. No matter if it is related to her physical traits or her personality, know that complimenting is one of the most effective ways to express affection to a girl, especially if you do it calmly and in a relaxed manner. However, don't overdo it, as it may end up annoying her or making her uncomfortable.
- For example, if you know she passed a test, you could say something like: “This is great! I'm not surprised at all, you're smart and you've worked hard. "
- If she has particularly attractive blue eyes, you can say something like, "I like the color of your eyes, it's a very beautiful blue." "
Step 3. Smile at him and make eye contact
Smiling a lot at her and looking her in the eye at appropriate times will serve the purpose of letting her know that you are confident and have an interest in her. Also, know that this is a first step to flirting. However, you shouldn't stare her in the eye, as that can scare her.
Greet her when you see her in the school hall by winking, smiling, or making brief eye contact
Step 4. Imitates his body language
Since you interest her, she may lean more towards you when speaking to you. She could also turn her hips, chest and feet towards you. Do like her to show her that she interests you too.
Step 5. Be gallant, but don't overdo it
Keeping the door open for her is always nice, but doing it all the time is going to seem a little over the top, even to someone who is interested in you. Avoid overly exaggerated gestures, such as offering her flowers, as this may confuse and upset her. In fact, a gift like this would be inappropriate especially at such a time when your relationship is still emerging. Rather, wait until things are more official before doing so.
Step 6. Use social media to communicate with her
This will allow you to have less pressure. If you're shy, you can like her status on Facebook, comment on one of her photos on Instagram, or just follow her on social media to show her that she interests you and that you care about her.
Step 7. Text him often, but not too eagerly
Especially since you like her too, you can have a hard time restraining yourself from sending her several messages at the same time, sending her a very long message or criticizing her for not responding to you quickly.. In fact, that kind of attitude will make her feel like you're clingy. For this reason, try to stay relaxed and send him as many messages as you receive.
Step 8. Be bold and call her
Nowadays, sending a message has become the norm, and many girls consider calling someone you like an act of daring and courage. If your face-to-face conversations with her and the ones you texted are long, pleasant, and natural, calling her on the phone will be the next step.
Method 2 of 2: Notify him of a lack of interest
Step 1. Ignore her advances if you aren't interested in her
The best way to show her that you only consider her a friend is to pretend nothing has happened. If you act naturally, despite her trying to make it obvious how she feels about you, she'll probably figure out why you behave the way you do.
Step 2. Give her hints before you tell her you don't like her
In other words, try all possible options to make her understand that you are not interested in you before telling her openly. Indeed, since she loves you, rejecting her in such a violent way will only hurt and embarrass her. In this perspective, keep your conversations relatively short and avoid chatting too much with her. If that fails, try other subtle tactics.
- Be less receptive when she tries to schedule a date.
- Tell her you're dating someone else.
- Tell her that you are very busy and that you are not willing to have a relationship just yet.
Step 3. Counteracts his body language
Since you interest her, it is very likely that she will make movements and position herself in a more welcoming way. To let her know that you don't share her feelings, counteract her movements. For example, if she tries to sit a little too close to you, move away from her a bit or cross your arms if she is trying to get closer to you. All of these gestures are obvious signs of reluctance.
Step 4. Be sincere, kind, and direct if she still doesn't get it
If by subtle means you've tried to be as clear as possible about your feelings for her and she still hasn't understood it, maybe it is time to be blunt. Talk to him the way you would like someone to talk to you if you were in his place. Also, use the personal pronoun "I" to keep the conversation focused on you. In fact, it would be mean to bring up the reasons why you don't like her and it might even ruin her ability to trust herself, so don't. Instead, say something like:
- "I'm really sorry, but I only see you as a friend. "
- "You are a really great girl, but I'm looking for something else right now. "
- “I love your company, but I only feel friendship for you. "
Step 5. Occasionally send him kind messages
Since you love her just like a friend, chat with her in a friendly manner. Try not to do this too often and be brief when you do. Doing too much can give her misconceptions, which can give her hope and subsequently disappoint her more.
- If you're not planning on dating her, don't take her on a boat.
- Be yourself !
- Don't show you love her by being mean to her. Girls hate it when boys are rude or intentionally boring.
- Don't try to impress her too much. Girls like humble people.
- Try to have good hygiene. Take a shower every day and put on just a little perfume if you want to add a nice touch.