Do you have affection for this handsome 12 year old boy who goes to the same school or church as you? Try to get his attention, talk to him, and spend time with him. Remember that there is no way to force him to love you, but you can be nice and get to know him so he knows how great you are!
Part 1 of 3: get his attention
Step 1. Look him in the eye and smile
Look at him when you are both in the same room and smile at him to let him know how friendly and happy you are when you see him. However, don't overdo it, otherwise he might think you're weird and dislike you. All you have to do is catch his eye. You can do this multiple times during a class, at a party, at a game, or at church. Once he's going to look at you, you can timidly look away or keep looking at him.
Step 2. Wear something beautiful
Wear an outfit that makes you feel beautiful, comfortable, and not too chic to make you feel confident the next time you see it. You don't have to wear fancy clothes like other girls do, because he might not like them or pay attention to them, but if you are laid back and comfortable, he will notice it.
Step 3. Make up yourself sober
If you want, you can work on your hairstyle. You can try new ways of styling or applying makeup, but don't overdo it. Go for something that looks best on you and makes you feel good about yourself. Start by taking care of your personal hygiene. In other words, make sure you take a shower, wash your hair, wear deodorant, and brush your teeth every day. This way you won't smell bad and you won't look sloppy.
- You can let your hair down, pull it into a ponytail, do a bun or whatever you prefer. If you want a new look, you can try curling or straightening them.
- Apply some mascara to your lashes and concealer or foundation to your face if you want to cover up acne or some redness on your skin.
Step 4. Get closer to him
Stand next to him if you're with friends, and be closer to him if you're sitting next to him. You can also lightly touch his arm while you're talking or nudge him playfully if he's teasing or joking with you. However, remember that some people do not like to be invaded their personal space or feel uncomfortable when touched. In this case, that doesn't necessarily mean that they don't like you.
If you don't feel like being too close to him or touching him, you can just mimic his body language. If he crosses his arms, has his hand on his temple, or has his hands in his pockets while talking to you, wait at least 20 seconds and do the same or very similar gestures. You will let him know that you are paying attention and that he is interested in you
Step 5. Get him to ask you questions
Observe him to find out what books he reads, what music he listens to, or what his favorite sports team is. If you are with him, try reading a book by the same author as him or wearing a t-shirt from a group he thinks he likes to get him to start a conversation.
Step 6. Write her a love letter
Write her a sweet or funny note and slip it in her locker. If you want, you can remain anonymous by signing the letter with a pseudonym or code name and invite him to guess the author using clues he finds in each letter. If you don't want to be too sentimental or too blunt, stick to simple jokes or compliments.
Part 2 of 3: talk to him
Step 1. Find out what you have in common
Ask him about his family, hobbies, school, books, sports or movies and you will probably find that you have things in common. Bring up one of these topics to start another conversation and invite them to hang out with you, watch a TV show, play sports, or just talk about something you're both passionate about. For example, if you both like basketball, you might say something like, “You know, I have a basket in my backyard. We could play together someday!"
Step 2. Show her that you are smart
Let him know how smart you are by telling him funny anecdotes, helping him with his homework, or just talking to him about a topic you are good at. Never minimize your intelligence and don't be ignorant to get his attention.
Step 3. Be honest
Make sure you tell him the truth about you and answer his questions honestly as you get to know him. Resist the temptation to tell him little lies or to say that you like something just because he likes it. Sooner or later the truth will emerge and he might lose interest in you if he finds out you were faking it.
For example, if he says, “I really like country music,” you don't have to also say that you like this music if you don't, but you can continue the conversation. You could add, “That's cool. Me, I like rock, but in the end I listen to a bit of all genres! Which country artists do you like? "
Step 4. Listen to it
Don't get distracted when he's talking to you, and remember the things he says to you so you can use them in another conversation. Listen to him, giving him your full attention to show him that what he has to say really interests you.
Step 5. Be direct
If you've ever had the chance to hang out with him, tell him you like it! You can express yourself in these terms: “You know, I think you are a very nice and funny boy. Would you like to go out together someday? Or "My interest in you goes beyond friendship." I would love to go out with you!"
Step 6. Tease him and be playful
Make a few jokes, tease him a bit (without being mean!) Or even offer to do a standoff to hold his hand and impress him by winning or make him feel good if he wins.
Part 3 of 3: spend time with him
Step 1. Spend time together in a casual setting
Tell him about an activity you're going to have with several other people, like watching a movie, having a party, or going to a sporting event, and hints that he should come. If he comes, you can spend time with him in a more relaxed atmosphere than during a one-on-one or a date.
First try to chat with one or more of his friends and invite them to the group activity as well. This way, when you talk to him, you can tell him that his friends will be there too and he will be more inclined to say yes
Step 2. Catch up with him after class
If you have a lesson with him, meet him before he leaves the classroom or if you are in different classes, chat with him in the halls of the school during recess.
Step 3. Have lunch together
Sit next to him or the same as him in the school cafeteria during lunch. It's a simple and completely relaxed way to spend time with him during school hours.
Step 4. Participate in activities that he enjoys
Attend or watch a sports game, join the club he is a member of, or go to the arcade, bowling or mall he frequents with his friends. Look him in the eye and start the conversation.
Step 5. Get to know your friends
Approach them to show him that you're the kind of person he can hang out with. This way you will have the opportunity to spend more time with him and get to know him better from his friends.
Step 6. Invite him out
Once you're ready to take action, don't hesitate and invite him out! Choose a casual activity, like an after-school bike ride or something more traditional, like eating pizza and going to the movies. Suggest something you will feel comfortable with that will allow you to talk and get to know yourself better.
If you want, you can offer her a spontaneous date by saying something like, "You know, I would really like an ice cream now!" Come on, let's go get some! "
- All boys have different interests and tastes. You don't have to try to put on makeup or wear special outfits, especially since the majority of 12-year-old boys aren't going to notice it. Instead, make sure you're nice, honest about what you say, and listen well.
- Be patient ! Boys this age, going through puberty, often feel embarrassed about dating girls or being around girls for fear of being ridiculed by their friends. Because of this, he may not show his feelings for you too much. However, who knows if everything will change when he turns 13?
- Don't despair if the boy you care about doesn't react well or accept your invitation to go out. He may not be ready to date someone, or he may need more time to get to know you. Remember that you are an exceptional person with or without him.
- Don't change your appearance or personality to appeal to a boy. If you overdo it, he might not like you or be interested in you for something that you are not really.