It can be very difficult to know if you are in love with someone. Be honest with yourself when you notice that you have real feelings for a boy. Take the time to think it over. Take into account your feelings, actions and reactions. Seek advice from the people who know you best.
Part 1 of 3: deal with your feelings
Step 1. Be honest with yourself
Take the time to take stock of your life. Find out if your feelings for the boy are serious or not. Ask yourself tough questions and answer them honestly.
- Do you daydream while thinking about him?
- Have you ever thought of a way to accidentally run into him in public or at school?
- Do you feel lonely because all of your friends are in a relationship?
- Did your feelings for him manifest at a specific time like after a dance or a month before Valentine's Day?
Step 2. Keep a journal
Keep a journal as you try to take stock of your feelings for the person. Write down whatever draws you in him. Describe the feeling that animates you when you are in his presence. Note if these feelings persist throughout the rest of the day or if they go away soon after you separate. Take note of all the times you daydream while thinking about him. List in the journal all of your hopes that you will eventually end up together. Review everything you wrote at the end of each week to take stock of your feelings.
Step 3. Chat with your best friend
Seek advice from your best friend (the person you know best). Discuss your feelings with your best friend. Explain to him the reasons why you are not sure how you feel towards this man. After you finish speaking, listen carefully. Let your friend tell you what she thinks. His response might upset you, provoke you, or confirm what you are really feeling. Take the time to analyze this.
Part 2 of 3: Evaluate Your Behavioral Changes
Step 1. Appreciate how often you talk about him
If you only think about the guy you like, you will tend to mention his name in all of your conversations. If you can't help but talk about him, it might mean that you are unable to get him out of your head and love him more than you think!
- Have your parents or friends ever called you several times to talk about him?
- Have you ever found unclear connections between his life and all of your talking points?
Step 2. Find out if you have any new passions
Have you developed any new passions lately, passions that you magically share with the man you love? If you've started taking part in new activities or suddenly developed an interest in an obscure subject just to impress them, you might have feelings for them!
- Did you join a group just to spend more time with them?
- Have you started reading her favorite books in order to have something to say to her?
- Did you follow her favorite series so you could talk about it in your conversations?
Step 3. Determine how important your appearance is
When you're in love with someone, you might start to place a lot of importance on your appearance and your actions. You strive to present her with the most flirty, confident, fun, loving version of yourself. You could spend more time choosing the perfect outfit or styling your hair. You could go over your conversations in your head over and over again to find out what you should have said otherwise. If you start to be deeply concerned about impressing him with your looks or actions, you might really care!
Part 3 of 3: Enjoying your interactions with him
Step 1. Analyze your reactions in his presence
Your reactions when he faces you, touches you, speaks to you speak volumes! If his presence particularly turns you on, if you have a keen reaction to his presence, and if you are able to spend hours chatting with him, the chances are high that you like him. If, on the other hand, you show indifference, chances are you don't like it that much.
- Do you throb with excitement or have an unpleasant feeling when you see him? Do you blush when he talks to you?
- Do you feel chills and blush when he approaches you?
- Do you always smile and answer their calls, texts or messages or do you just ignore their attempts to reach you? When chatting with him, are you afraid or eager to end the conversation?
Step 2. Evaluate the time you spend together
How much time you spend with your sweetheart is a great indicator that tells you how much you really feel for them. If you are striving to find a niche in your schedule to meet him intentionally, imagine ways to meet him, or can't wait to see him again, chances are you like him. If, on the other hand, you make very little effort to spend time with him, the relationship might not be your priority.
Step 3. Find out if you are jealous
It is difficult to see your boyfriend seducing or arguing with other people. If you are jealous, it means you love him. If you start to want to know everything about him (where he is, who he is with, what he does all the time) it could mean that you want to be more than just friends. If seeing him seducing other people doesn't mean anything to you, you may not be the jealous type or want to have a relationship with him.
Step 4. Notice the smallest things
When you love a man, you always want to know everything about him. You might know how he likes to have his coffee or his sandwich. You might know his favorite movie or band. Maybe you know the strange phobia he suffers from. When you learn and remember the smallest details of someone's life, you are sure to seek to be more intimate with them.