Is there a girl you would like to be friends with? You like to talk to her and she makes you laugh, so why not? You find her funny and you would like to spend more time with her. Maybe she even has some beautiful friends to introduce you to! Here's how to befriend her.
Part 1 of 3: spark a friendship
Step 1. Go to the same places as her
To befriend a girl, you'll need to get to know her first. A girl will not be able to be comfortable with a stranger who simply walks up to her, starting a conversation on a trivial topic. But if you often cross paths in the same places, this barrier will fall. You won't be scary anymore. Are you in any of his classes? Do you share a hobby? Great !
- It is indeed proven that human beings love the things to which they are more exposed. This is the reason why the same song plays over and over on the radio and why the commercials are repeated over and over again. So the more exposed she is to "you," the more she will appreciate you. In psychology, this is called the single-exposure effect (in case you're curious).
- If you have to, put yourself in his sights. Does she always sit on the left of the classroom? Can you find it at a certain Starbucks on Wednesday afternoons? If you know where she will be, be there every now and then. As long as you don't breathe into his neck, you're on the right track.
Step 2. Interact with it
Now that you both know who the other is and have a little something in common, you should interact with her. It can be as simple as a passing remark about your teacher's ridiculous tie, or you could ask a question about what she'll be doing next week. Don't be afraid to start small, because after all, you have to start somewhere.
- She is a "girl", not a magician, a stranger or an Ewok. She's just a girl and there are billions of them on the planet. When you ask him a question or give him a funny comment, you won't spontaneously catch fire and the world won't explode. If she is friendly with you, she will be happy to answer you.
- Don't go too hard! Friendships are formed over time and you can really make a girl uncomfortable if you treat her like your best friend when you've just known each other, especially if she is shy and unsociable.
Step 3. Be bold
Many people are shy when it comes to reaching out to others. She might enjoy having a new friend like you, but she won't become vulnerable or question everything. Be bold and fuel the conversation. Ask him his opinion on things, ask him questions about your lessons, hobbies, mutual friends and keep the conversation going.
Write down what she is wearing, what items she has with her, or what she seems to be interested in. Be careful. Is she reading wikiHow on her phone? Awesome, you were just reading this article the other day on how to take back control of a frightened camel. What's her favorite item?
Step 4. Make her laugh
The easiest way to become friends with someone is to make that person laugh. When she knows she will be with you, she also knows she will have a good time: bingo! Identify his sense of humor and have a good time.
This is a way to keep the situation as light and fun as possible. Making her laugh will let her know that you are just trying to have a good time with her, whether it's in the middle of the 5th period of your history class which gets very boring or after a particularly intense practice that took your whole Thursday. evening. Brighten her days and she'll want to stay your friend
Part 2 of 3: Cultivate a Friendship
Step 1. Treat her like a girl
Most girls need to know that you are aware that she is a girl and that you think she is pretty, even if you don't want to date her. While you should think of her as a normal person, don't treat her like a male friend. Hold the door for her, cover her if she's cold, text her if she's going through a rough time, tell her she's pretty before a big event, pay extra attention. If you don't, she might start to wonder what's wrong with her.
Be delicate with this. A little flirting is good, it needs to be done well and you should use your good judgment. You wouldn't want her to imagine things! You just have to think that you are a gentleman to her. Don't act like you have a romantic interest, but be a little more chivalrous than with your friends when spending evenings playing XBox
Step 2. Be precious to her
This step has absolutely nothing to do with making friends with a girl, but it has everything to do with just making friends. Do you have friends who bring you nothing? Probably not. So be of value to her. The "value" will be up to you. What are you doing right? What do you know ? Why should she want to spend time with you? What makes you a good friend?
Yes, there are answers to all of these questions. Maybe you are really smart, funny, or know a lot of different people. Maybe you've traveled a lot or have an interesting hobby. Focus on what sets you apart and bet on it. If you're smart help her with a homework assignment, if you're funny make her laugh, if you have lots of contacts, introduce her to new people she might like. Show off yourself
Step 3. Compliment her
Girls love compliments that are genuine. As long as you let her know that you don't want to date her, she'll appreciate compliments. Is she wearing an awesome Daft Punk t-shirt? Tell him! Did she play well in the volleyball game last night? Tell him! Everyone likes to feel good about themselves. Make it feel that way.
This can be a bit tricky. You should not say to him: "Your eyes are like reflections of the moon which see in my soul". Don't say, "Oh my god, you're so smart!" When she had an 11/20 on the biology exam. Your compliments should be well placed, credible, and should not be out of date. Try to deflect situations and give her compliments in a subtle way. "Are you 11/20? Ouch. I guess that's what happens when you spend all your time mastering a language, the flute, basketball! "
Step 4. Lend him your equipment and borrow his
Your iPod, your laptop, your books, your guitar and everything in between. You should both be okay with sharing valuables with each other. Don't offer to lend her something for no reason, because she'll know it's a technique. Wait for the opportunity to present itself.
Or, you could create the opportunity. Did you miss a class the other day? Ask him to borrow his notes. Does she have Dexter season 4? You should definitely borrow the series from him now! It goes both ways, of course, but you could start the whole thing off. When you ask her to borrow something from her, you will let her know that she also has the right to borrow things from you
Step 5. Laugh at his jokes
Since you often make jokes, she will probably try to do the same. If they're not funny, force yourself. She tries and it's cute. Laughter will bind you together, even if the joke is not worthy of Facebook status.
Friends often tease each other. Even if it's a girl, you could still make fun of her! If she comes up with a really bad joke, you have the right to tease her a bit. This interaction will somehow build solidarity between you and as long as you do it in good faith, it will respond to you with a smile
Part 3 of 3: Become Good Friends
Step 1. Always be there when she needs it
She should know that she can count on you all the time. That you give her a shoulder if she needs to cry when her relationship with the boys is not going well. Whether you drive her to the train station in the middle of the night so that she doesn't come home in a torrential rain (don't be too romantic and epic, she might be a fan of romantic comedies). That you study with her for a very difficult exam. You shouldn't have to tell her, after a while she will figure it out on her own.
Girls are emotional. When they get emotional, they sometimes become irrational. When she is like that, it is important to listen to her. She probably won't expect a real solution, no matter how much she complains. Being there, listening to her and telling her that she can handle whatever she is going through will be very precious to her. You may find that the next day it will be like new! These are the women …
Step 2. Tell your male friends that she is your friend, period
If they want to date her, all the better, but always be vigilant. It will also put them on the right path. And that's what it's like to be a true friend. After all, she's a lot like your sister, only better (you don't argue in the bathroom).
Tell your girlfriend that she is your friend! Sometimes girls are a little intimidated by other girls, but if you talk about the topic like it's trivial, your girlfriend should (normally) see no problem. Who knows, maybe they will get along well together
Step 3. Be open about your feelings
There is a school of thought that says boys and girls can't just be "friends." At one point or another, she will either have feelings for you or you will have feelings for her. If that happens (which could happen), stay open about it. The worst part is not knowing what the other is thinking. Avoid this by being direct.
Since you are such good friends, you can do it! Hope she will be direct with you as well. If you start to notice any ambiguous signs and think she might be developing feelings, let her know how much you value her "friendship." There are tricky ways to tell her you're really just friends, without hurting her. Smother the problem in the bud as soon as you can
- Behave the same with her as you do with your friends. Don't start talking stupid jokes and try to be cool just because you're with your friends. Girls hate it!
- Don't touch her too much, a girl may take it badly and feel uncomfortable. Hugs, slaps on the hands, raised fists, pats on the head and pinches on the cheeks are acceptable.
- Don't have perverse conversations with or against her. It can happen with your male friends, but in most cases with a girl it will just make her want to throw up and definitely make her reluctant to want to spend time with you. If you have no respect for her then why should she be friends with you?