You might be feeling a little flustered if you want to have a boyfriend in college. You might not know how to get his attention or even know if it's the right one. While there is no magic potion to make him fall in love with you, you can increase your chances of finding a boyfriend by building confidence and meeting lots of boys. Once you've found one you like, don't be afraid to show them you're interested and invite them out.
Part 1 of 4: feel on top and show it off
Step 1. Take care of your hygiene
You will look more attractive if you take care of yourself. Take showers and put on deodorant every day to keep your scent pleasant. Wash your face and brush your teeth twice a day.
- You could also shave under the armpits or on the legs, but you should discuss this with your parents first.
- If you want to put on makeup, indulge yourself! But if you don't want to put it on, no one is forcing you.
- Scent lotions and perfumes are good, but you should avoid having your hand too heavy.
Step 2. Wear clothes to feel good
Dress to feel pretty and confident. For some girls, jeans and a t-shirt will be enough, for others, it will be necessary to put on a pretty floral dress. The more confidence and positive energy you give off, the more people will be drawn to you.
Make sure your clothes are clean and presentable. Wrinkles and coffee stains are not going to make you look any more beautiful
Step 3. Be confident
Yes, having a boyfriend is more interesting, but that doesn't have to be a necessary condition for you to feel good about yourself. Remember you are an amazing girl. Accept your unique personality, quirky interests, and body. It is important that you are comfortable in your sneakers before you focus on someone else.
Step 4. Don't worry about your appearance
You could easily make it a fixation or you could want to look more beautiful or thinner. However, remember that your values and your personality are more important than your appearance. In fact, self-confidence is more important than appearance in attracting boys.
Part 2 of 4: meet the right boy
Step 1. Talk to the singles in your class
Are there cute, single boys in your class? Take matters into your own hands and go talk to them to see if there is any chemistry. If their office is near yours, it will be easier, but you can also talk to them before or after class.
- You might feel too shy to start the conversation, but all you need to do is comment on something that happened in class. If the heat is out, you might say, “Are you cold? It feels like the North Pole”.
- Ask them for help. You might ask them if you can borrow a pencil or if they can give you homework.
Step 2. Attend parties and other events
You can meet a potential boyfriend by showing off to others! Go to parties organized by classmates and participate in school events like football matches or meetings. The more boys you meet, the better your chances of meeting the right one.
- To make the most of these events, you shouldn't be stuck in your group of friends all the time. If you see a guy you like, start the conversation by commenting on something around you.
- For example, you could say, “I love this song! You know her ? If he likes her too, you've already found something in common!
Step 3. Ask your friends to help you
If they know any cute boys, you could ask them to introduce them to you. If you have a mutual friend with the guy you like, that already makes you a talking point. Besides, if your friends like him, it's probably because he's a good guy.
You might say, “I think I would like to have a boyfriend. Do you know any interesting boys that you could introduce to me? "
Step 4. Join clubs or activities that interest you
You can meet guys who are interested in the same things as you by joining a club or other activities! A shared passion allows you to make a connection.
- If you are athletic, you could join a sports team, for example the swimming or athletics team. You will be able to show everyone your athletic skills while meeting boys who share your love of sports.
- Maybe you like to help others. Join a volunteer club at school to meet nice boys who like to do the same.
Part 3 of 4: showing interest
Step 1. Say hello to her in the hallways
Now that you've found someone you like, you need to let them know how you are feeling. Start by saying hello and smiling at him when you see him. Show him that you are happy to see each other.
Step 2. Ask him questions
If you have time, you can strike up a conversation and ask him questions to get to know him better. Try to ask open ended questions, that is, questions that he cannot answer with a yes or no.
It could be, for example, "why do you love Star Wars so much?" "
Step 3. Sit next to him
You will probably be spending a lot of time sitting during the day, why not take the opportunity to sit next to him? Try to get closer during lunch, on the bus, in class or during a game. Obviously, you need to avoid sitting next to him all the time or you might scare him off. However, he should understand what happens if you try to get closer every now and then.
If you feel yourself growing wings, you can even keep a free seat next to you
Step 4. Flirt with him
This might sound a bit confusing to you, but it's actually very simple! You can start by gently touching him on the arm as you chat. You should look him in the eye, smile at him, and gently tease him.
- Say something funny, like, "wow, you do well at football, almost as well as my little sister!" "
- Don't overdo it anyway. If you seem to be making him sad, stop.
Step 5. Use social media to flirt
Give 'likes' to his photos, tag him with funny emoticons, and play with Snapchat. However, don't overdo it. If you "like" her posts from several months ago or send her hundreds of photos, you might look a little fishy.
Step 6. Also be careful with texting
You don't have to send it to her all the time or you might look sticky. Send it out once every two or three days to discuss something fun that happened at school or to wish him good luck before his soccer game.
- Don't seem to be waiting for answers with the cell phone in hand. Make her feel like she's not very interested by waiting a few minutes before responding.
- Make sure you send yourself a similar number of messages. If you're always the first to start the conversation, that's a bad sign.
Step 7. Help him when he needs it
Once you're friends, you can offer to help. He might need to be taken to a game, and your mom has a free seat in the car. If he has forgotten his lunch, you can offer him your yogurt. In fact, you have to try to be friends.
Part 4 of 4: invite her out
Step 1. Invite him on group outings
You might be a little afraid to invite her out on a one-to-one date, so you might want to start by inviting her on group outings. This allows you not to look too serious while having time to get to know yourself better. Plus, if your friends are around, they can give you advice and support.
Plan an outing with your friends and friends to the pool, bowling or to an amusement park for the day
Step 2. Invite him one-on-one
Once you've spent some time in a group, you can try spending time just the two of you. Your parents might not let you go to a movie if the two of you are only the two of you, but you might invite them out for a lunchtime walk or invite them over for a family night out.
- You could say something like: "How would you like to come over to my place tonight?" My parents are having a game night and we always have a lot of fun! "
- Be sure to ask your parents for permission before inviting someone to these kinds of events.
Step 3. Talk to her about how you are feeling
If you think he is interested and want to be in a relationship, it is important that you are honest about how you are feeling. Even if you think he has understood how you feel, remember that he cannot read minds. You don't have to make a big declaration of love for her, but you could tell her that you would like to be more than friends.
- You could say, "I like you very much and I would very much like us to get to know each other better."
- Try to do this in a private setting so that you both can talk more easily about how you are feeling.
Step 4. Move on if he doesn't want to
Sometimes some relationships just can't be made, don't take it personally. If he avoids you, if he seems bored when you're together, if he refuses your invitations to go out, or if he seems to be interested in other girls, he is maybe he's not the right boy for you.
It is never nice to be rejected, but there are a lot of other fish in the sea. Allow yourself to be a little sad now, then pull yourself together and meet other boys who will like you
- Keep some gum or breath candy in your bag. If you're not sure how to start the conversation, you can gift her one!
- If you have close friends, ask them for advice about boys.
- Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable having a boyfriend, especially things of a sexual nature.
- Don't change your personality for a boy. The boy who deserves you appreciates you for who you are.