How to talk to your girlfriend on the phone

How to talk to your girlfriend on the phone
How to talk to your girlfriend on the phone

Good conversations are essential to make a relationship work. Even today, with texting and social media communication, 87% of teens talk to their other half on the phone. The fact that you make the effort to call your girlfriend can show her that you care and she will feel loved.


Part 1 of 4: Choosing a place and time to call

Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 1

Step 1. Adapt to his schedule

Communicate by SMS to set a time to speak to her or call her when you think she is available. Don't put her in an awkward position by forcing her to choose between you or her friends and family. Call her when she is leaving her theater club or when she has finished soccer training, working hours or having a family meal.

  • Text her before the time you want to talk to her. Write something like, “Hi, will you be free to talk tonight? Or "Can I call you around 7 p.m.?" ". Be flexible and set a time that works for both of you. If she's busy

    Don't be: irritated or saddened.

    Say: We can do that tomorrow night! or Good luck with your exams! Are we talking this weekend?

Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 2

Step 2. Call her from a quiet, private location

Girls are more open and honest if they know no one else can overhear the conversation. Do not call when you are with other people and do not turn on the speakerphone without your girlfriend's permission.

Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 3

Step 3. Give it your full attention

She gives you the gift of time spent on the phone so you should. Most young people think that when you do something else on the phone, you don't concentrate well on the conversation. Make it clear to your girlfriend that nothing in the world matters more to you than this conversation with her. You should not text, chat, watch TV, or talk to other people while you are chatting with her.

Part 2 of 4: start with chatter

Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 4

Step 1. Say hello happily

Emotions are transmitted. If you are warm and talk enthusiastically, your girlfriend is likely to react the same way. When she answers the phone, greet her so that you open the conversation and let her know you want to listen. Choose lyrics that suit your level of intimacy.

  • " Hi my darling ! How are you ? "
  • " Hello beauty ? How was your day ? "
  • "I've wanted to hear the sound of your voice all day!" What did you do today ? "
Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 5

Step 2. Leave a cute voicemail message

If your girlfriend isn't answering the phone and you come across the answering machine, leave her a short, cute message. She'll appreciate the fact that you think of her and be happy to hear your voice.

  • If you've been dating for a while, you can say, "I'm calling you just to tell you that I love you!" "
  • If you've just started a new relationship, leave a less intimate message: “I just wanted to ask how you are doing. I miss you ! "
  • Tell her what time she can call you back to avoid exchanging missed calls: “I come home from soccer at 7 pm. Maybe we could talk to each other then! "
Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 6

Step 3. Start the conversation with small talk

Human beings are social animals who are made to love chatting with strangers. Small talk is a way to bond while people get to know each other. Even a superficial conversation can be of interest in a new relationship. Talk about easy topics that will make the girl comfortable.

  • Tell about something that happened to you during the day.
  • Ask him questions about his favorite sports team.
  • Talk about events in your school.
  • Talk about a movie or TV show you've both seen. If the conversation gets boring

    Do not react by: interrupting or ending the conversation abruptly.

    Do this: ask questions to steer the conversation to an interesting topic.

Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 7

Step 4. Compliment her

Let her know that you enjoy talking and spending time with her. Don't overdo it, but tell her things that will encourage her to open up.

  • "You're the one who tells the best anecdotes!" "
  • " You are too funny ! "
  • “I can't wait to find out what happened next! "
  • “It's so easy to talk to you! Don't: the same generic compliment every conversation.

    Say: I love your enthusiasm when you talk about …

Part 3 of 4: keep the conversation going

Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 8

Step 1. Let the conversation develop naturally

If there is a good flow between you, the trivialities will give way to deeper things. Let the conversation naturally shift from light topics to more personal ones. Take advantage of openings that allow you to get to know each other better.

  • “Me too, I play the guitar! Why did you choose the guitar over another instrument? "
  • "Will you pass your license in three months?" Where would you go if you had a car? "
  • “Only two weeks before the holidays! Where are you going to spend them? "
Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 9

Step 2. Be open

Your girlfriend will only be honest and open if you are too. Most people do not express their feelings because they are afraid of being rejected, not because they are not interested. If you tell this girl how much she means to you, she won't be afraid to tell you the same.

  • “Every time I see you, my life lights up. "
  • “You are the most beautiful girl in the world. "
  • “I feel like no one understands me as well as you do. "
Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 10

Step 3. Ask open-ended questions

Word your questions so that the girl feels she can go into detail, give context, and express her feelings. Don't stall the conversation by asking questions that she can only answer yes or no. Do not start: with affirmative sentences like I bet that … or You must have …

Use: how…, why…, and what…

Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 11

Step 4. Listen

Conversations are going both ways. It is as important to listen as it is to speak. Don't interrupt your girlfriend or talk at the same time as her. Listen carefully to what she is telling you and wait until she is finished before asking questions. Encourage her to share more information.

  • " What happened next ? "
  • "How did you feel? "
  • "Why do you prefer Starbucks coffee shops?" "
Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 12

Step 5. Avoid topics that cast a chill in the conversation

You have to be honest with your girlfriend, but you don't want to hurt or make her uncomfortable. Evaluate his enthusiasm during the conversation. If a topic seems to appeal to him, explore it more deeply. If she stops talking or seems hesitant and says “I don't know”, “Maybe”, etc. very often switch to a nicer subject.

  • As you get to know your girlfriend better, spot difficult topics and avoid them. Your conversations should be positive experiences. If you bring back painful memories (the divorce of her parents, an ex-boyfriend, her deceased grandmother, etc.), you won't become intimate any faster. Let her know that she can tell you whatever she wants, but don't bring bad memories on purpose.
  • If you overdo it, you might scare him off. Don't make her feel like you're obsessed or asking for too much affection. Don't comment on her body that she might find too daring and take it badly. Don't be afraid to: show your emotions and talk about your experiences.

    Pay attention to: that she is comfortable and adjust your next conversations.

Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 13

Step 6. Plan for the future

Planning together, whether it's just for a night out or your whole life, will bring you closer to each other. Talk about places you would like to live or travel if you could go anywhere, what breed of dog you want or what house you dream of. Have fun and use your imagination. Keep the conversation light and flirt with each other. You don't have to plan for the rest of your life. Tell your girlfriend how much you can't wait to have adventures with her. Do not talk about: getting married or living together until the topic naturally arises in the conversation.

Talk about: your future in a humorous way.

Part 4 of 4: say goodbye

Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 14

Step 1. End the conversation before you run out of ideas

It's always best to say goodbye to yourself when you still have things to say to yourself. That way, you'll be looking forward to your next conversation. Come up with ideas for topics for your next conversation.

Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 15

Step 2. Tell her you enjoyed the conversation

Let her know that you care and enjoy talking to her. If she knows you want to hear her voice, she's more likely to call you.

  • "I can't wait to talk to you again!" Call me when you want ! "
  • "I'll be thinking about your angelic voice all night long." "
  • "Call me back quickly!" "
  • "I'm writing to you tomorrow morning!" "
Talk to Your Girlfriend on the Phone Step 16

Step 3. Make her smile when you say goodbye

Say something romantic that will make her happy just before you hang up. Talk about a joke you both share, use a little nickname she likes, or give her a compliment to make her blush.

  • " Goodbye My beauty. "
  • " Good night my Love. "
  • " Kisses ! Sweet Dreams ! "


  • Don't try too hard to impress her. You don't want to come across as arrogant or lacking in self-confidence.
  • Don't talk to other girls to make her jealous. She will understand what you are trying to do.
  • Speak in a confident, calm, and seductive voice throughout the conversation.
  • Make sure you have plenty of credit on your phone before you call. You don't want the conversation to be cut off at an important moment or for your girlfriend to think you've hung up on her.
  • Make sure the conversation doesn't get too boring. After all, you don't call your grandmother.
  • Stay calm and don't try to argue on the phone. The girl will flee the confrontation.
  • Respect your girlfriend's family and culture.

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