How to look pretty and confident: 15 steps (with pictures)

How to look pretty and confident: 15 steps (with pictures)
How to look pretty and confident: 15 steps (with pictures)

Did you know that only 4% of women between 18 and 29 would describe themselves as "beautiful"? On the contrary, 60% of women would describe themselves as "average" or "natural". Unfortunately, this may in part be the result of media and popular culture leading women to believe that there are unrealistic standards of beauty that are impossible to achieve. Fortunately, beauty is not something that has to be dictated to you, you can define it yourself. In fact, many women “feel” beautiful because of many other factors such as when they feel loved, when they take care of themselves, when they have close friends, when they are in a relationship, etc. In truth, beauty is not in how you look, but in how you are.


Part 1 of 3: Showing off your beauty

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Step 1. Smile

It is often said, "Smile and the world will smile at you." This is great advice. It's even better advice when you realize that smiling changes the chemical reactions in your brain, in a positive way. By smiling when you are feeling unhappy, you can actually make yourself feel better. Even if you don't feel like smiling, give it a try anyway. Yes, you're probably going to have to start with forced smiles, but before you even know it, you're going to be putting on a real smile. It can't hurt to laugh. Laughter increases the level of oxygen in the brain, which in turn releases chemicals called endorphins. Endorphins are good chemicals that make you feel good.

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Step 2. Stay Healthy

Stay as healthy as possible by eating properly, getting enough sleep every night, and exercising regularly. At the same time, you shouldn't blame yourself if you miss a day or two, you have the right to take a break. To stay healthy, you also need to learn to manage your stress levels. By keeping your stress as low as possible, you will reap many positive side effects and you will feel in a better mood more often.

  • Every day, take a moment for yourself.
  • Consider getting a regular massage, pedicure, or something that makes you feel relaxed.
  • Do not use a scale. Sometimes the sight of a number on the scale can have a massive emotional impact on you when that number doesn't necessarily have to do with how you feel or think about yourself. Don't encourage yourself to feel disappointed.
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Step 3. Maintain a positive image of yourself

You make a mental image of yourself. It is directly related to your self-esteem and the self-confidence you have in yourself. This image is built over time and is based on the experiences of your personal life. If your experiences have been mostly positive, you are more likely to have a positive image and vice versa. If you have had negative experiences and now have a negative self-image, you are likely to doubt your abilities. By evaluating yourself positively, you will develop better empathy skills and feelings of satisfaction.

  • Sit down and make a list of your positive qualities and abilities. You might surprise yourself realizing what you've accomplished and how proud you should be.
  • Try not to compare yourself to others, be it celebrities, friends, or family members. You are not these people, so there is no need to compare yourself to them. You are your own person and these comparisons are unnecessary.
  • Learn to love yourself for the way you are. You are unique and you are amazing! Whatever you have been through in life, it has been a long and difficult journey and you have survived it.
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Step 4. Go get your hair cut

It is amazing how much impact a haircut has on everything you do! If you have a haircut that you really like, it's easy to feel more confident and happy. If you don't like your haircut, it will put you in a bad mood and get bored. The next time you go for your haircut, take a moment to think about it to make sure you get a cut that is what you want and need.

  • Ask yourself a list of questions about your hair and base your cut on the answers you get.

    • Should you be able to tie your hair back?
    • How much time do you have in the morning to do your hair?
    • What devices (like hair dryer, hair straightener, etc.) do you have and which ones do you know how to use?
  • Search the internet for different haircuts and look at the pictures. If you see something that matches what you hope to have, print the image out and have it with you. It works great if you want to have your hair dyed. This will save you the hassle of describing the nuance you want to achieve in words.
  • Give as much detail as possible to the hairstylist before he starts. Explain to her exactly what you want and what you want to achieve with your hair.
  • During or after the cut, ask the hairdresser for advice on how to style your hair properly. You might not be able to do it exactly the way he wants to, but he can teach you a few tips.
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Step 5. Change your wardrobe

If you look confident, you will also feel confident. However, this does mean that you should wear your clothes and not let them wear you. When trying to dress to look confident, you need to make sure to use colors and styles that match your personality and your figure. You want to dress to express your personal style, not the style of others. Even more importantly, you should feel comfortable in the clothes you are wearing.

  • Showcase your best attributes instead of focusing on the things you don't like about yourself and want to hide.
  • Wear something that will make people remember you, such as a special sign. You may still be wearing pretty earrings or shoes with bright colors. Find something that relates to your personality.
  • If you are not sure how to proceed, make an appointment with a personal trainer at a shopping center. They can help you choose from the thousands of options and pick something that looks good on you.
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Step 6. Stand up straight and stop slouching

Unfortunately, this is easier said than done. The posture helps give your muscles more balance and align them properly. Poor posture causes pain in the muscles. Good posture also affects your joints and can help prevent arthritis. Along with all the benefits of good posture, it can help you feel more confident and ready to take on the world!

  • When standing: keep your shoulders back and relaxed. Tuck in your stomach. Keep the feet aligned below the shoulders. Distribute your weight evenly on both feet and let your arms hang naturally to the sides. Avoid tilting your head in one direction or locking your knees.
  • When seated: Make sure both feet are comfortably on the floor while your knees are at the same level as your hips. Place a rolled up towel or pillow on your lower back (if the chair does not have lower back support). Pull your head towards the ceiling. Tuck your chin in a bit. Keep your upper back and neck in a straight line and relax your shoulders.
  • When you sleep: Maintain a position that allows your back to curve naturally. Try to avoid sleeping on your stomach. Firm mattresses are better than soft mattresses. If you sleep on your side, put a pillow between your knees to keep the leg above it aligned with your back.
  • Lift with your knees, not your back. When lifting something heavy, you should keep your back straight and bend your knees. When you stand up, straighten your knees. Do not lean forward at the waist to lift anything.

Part 2 of 3: Presenting your insurance

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Step 1. Think about what your body language is communicating with

Body language is something that sometimes says more than words. You can change it just by paying attention to your body position during the conversation. There are ways to adjust your body to show confidence, here are a few.

  • Don't wriggle. Stay in one spot with your feet flat on the floor in line with your hips. Distribute your weight evenly over both feet, do not swing from one foot to the other.
  • Support yourself on the back of the chair when you are seated. Do not wriggle your lower body. If you must cross your legs, do it comfortably without overly tightening your legs. Keep your hands in a relaxed position.
  • Look at a point or area in general. Keep your head still. Keep it stretched upward with the chin parallel to the floor.
  • Keep your hands in front of you or behind you when not in use. If you catch your hands together, do so without squeezing them too much. Don't hide your hands in your pockets or clench your fists.
  • Do not rush. Speak at a steady pace, don't rush to get the words out. Confident people are in no hurry.
  • Take a break every now and then, whether you're walking or talking.
  • Stay comfortable and don't fidget when there's a gap in the conversation or when no one is talking.
  • Assert yourself. Smile. Look people in the eye. When you shake someone's hand, hold it firmly.
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Step 2. Respect others and be kind to them

To truly see that beauty comes from within, you have to see it in yourself and see it in others. Everyone has one or more qualities that make them special. When you spend time with others, see them in a new light and see that person for who they really are, on the inside. As you see these qualities in others, you will begin to notice them in yourself.

  • Use this opportunity to explore the specific qualities that you admire in others and how you can work to achieve them on your own. Choose models for yourself based on these qualities.
  • Don't be afraid to tell others what you admire about them. There is nothing that boosts your confidence and self-esteem better than receiving compliments from people who admire you.
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Step 3. Assert yourself

By being assertive, you will make sure you get what you want in life. It doesn't mean that you have to control others. To be assertive, you need to know how to say no, express your opinion, ask for a favor, give someone a compliment, and don't let the pressure put you down. To be a strong communicator, you need to be able to speak openly and honestly while respecting the people you communicate with. Expressing assertiveness is a great way to boost self-confidence that you are going to feel great after getting what you need without anyone feeling frustrated or angry.

  • When speaking assertively with someone, remember to look them in the eye without staring at them, to keep your voice volume normal and respectful, not to use hand gestures that might distract them. and respect that person's personal space.
  • Translate your feelings with first person singular sentences. These sentences consist of four parts: feeling, behavior, effect and preference: “I feel… when… because… I would prefer…” For example: “I feel annoyed when you tell me what to do in your emails because I feel like you disrespect me. I'd rather you ask me to do something instead of telling me to do it. "
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Step 4. Prepare in advance

Remember that you cannot change the past and you cannot control the future. But you can prepare for future events by observing the things in your control and creating a plan of action. When creating your plan, avoid an extreme approach where you are tempted to consider all possible outcomes. There is no way to prepare for all of this, which is why you should stick to a few realistic results. Once you've made a small list of possible outcomes, prioritize them. Work on the points with the highest priority. Don't think you have to prepare for it on your own. Ask your family or friends for help. Discuss your thoughts with someone or practice repeating what you are going to say.

  • This early preparation can also train you to say no. Don't feel like you have to do something just because you're asked to do it. If there's no realistic way to accomplish what you're being asked to do, say no.
  • Once the event or situation has passed, reward yourself for your good work.

Part 3 of 3: Believe in yourself

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Step 1. Stop criticizing yourself

Value yourself and respect yourself. You don't have to be a perfectionist. It's okay not to be loved by everyone. You have the right not to be perfectly successful in all the activities that you undertake. Your personal worth has nothing to do with the things you do or don't do. You are valuable whatever you do or don't do. It is not necessary to take an "all or nothing" attitude in your life.

  • Change your vocabulary and stop using the word "should". It involves a level of perfectionism that is not necessary and can sometimes force you to follow the unnecessary expectations of others.
  • Replace the critical thoughts you have about yourself with encouraging ones. Give yourself constructive criticism that can help you make a positive change.
  • Don't feel like you have to take responsibility for anything and everything. This will increase your stress levels and make you feel overwhelmed, but it could also deprive others of responsibility for something (including themselves).
  • If you were responsible for something and you made a mistake, take responsibility for it. However, if you weren't in control, there is no need to take responsibility for it and feel guilty.
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Step 2. Think positively

It is important to be positive for yourself, but it is also important for the people around you. Young adults listen to what older adults say, and if they hear you speak negatively about yourself (eg, “I have a big butt”), they might also be criticizing themselves. Many of these comments pop up in conversation and we often forget that we said them. So, the next time you feel a negative comment coming, try to consciously change it to a positive one. You are not going to change in one night and there will be days when it is impossible for you to think positively, but start small. The most important thing is to realize the times when you are feeling negative and to change them.

  • Look at yourself in the mirror at least once a day to make a positive comment about yourself.
  • Don't just think of positive comments, say them too. If you love your new haircut, say so!
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Step 3. Don't stop learning

See it as an opportunity to challenge yourself. Learn something new every day. Take classes to learn something new and exciting like drawing, painting, cooking, singing, pottery, etc. Also take university courses in a subject that has always fascinated you, but for which you had no time before. Expand your horizons. Encourage a friend to join you on one of your “educational expeditions”.

Take risks. Don't see every opportunity to learn something as something you have to win or lose or even make perfect.Realize that it's okay to be bad at something, because you're going to have fun anyway. Unless you take a step outside your comfort zone and take a little risk, you'll never know how much fun it is to learn something new without setting expectations

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Step 4. Work on your own definition of success

Success in life doesn't depend on others, it depends on what you want. Success doesn't have to be a predefined standard like the “American Dream”. Your success should be based on realistic goals that you have for yourself based on your wants and needs. Success doesn't always mean perfection, it can include many goals that you can achieve on a level other than perfection. Success also doesn't have to be an end goal, it can be a journey. If you are trying your hand at something (eg knitting a scarf) and can't figure out how to do it (eg if your scarf looks more like a bunch of yarn), that's okay! If you had fun trying, this is the most important thing.

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Step 5. Treat your mistakes as experiences that teach you something

Whatever you try in life, there's a good chance you will sometimes make mistakes. Everyone does. First of all, it's okay to make mistakes. Some mistakes in the past have even changed the world (eg Teflon, vulcanized rubber, post-its, penicillin). Instead of stressing yourself out about making a mistake, use it as an opportunity to learn. Think about things you could have done differently. The more mistakes you make, the more you learn and get smarter!

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