Inviting a girl out when you're in sixth grade can be intimidating, because most of your friends probably don't have girlfriends yet. This may be your first attempt to start a relationship, but relax and know that this is probably the first time the girl has been in this situation and that she's probably just as nervous as you are. To invite a girl out and have her accept, you just need to get to know her a little, find the right time to invite her, and keep calm.
Part 1 of 3: prepare to invite him
Step 1. Get to know her a little bit
Before inviting a girl out, she should know who you are, know you a minimum, or even be your friend. You don't have to be best friends, but she does need to know you a little so that she isn't overly suspicious. Talk to her at the end of class, say hello to her in the playground, chat with her for a few minutes at the end of the day. Let her get to know you, for example if you have a sister, what sports you like or what you like to do after school.
If you don't know her at all, just go over to her and say "Hi, are you okay?" She'll appreciate your confidence as long as you're not too pressing
Step 2. Make her understand that you like her
She should be able to guess that you like her before you invite her out. She doesn't have to be absolutely sure that you find her fantastic, but she should be able to think that you find her nice and thus be prepared for your request. Smile at her, give her a compliment on something she's wearing, or pay her extra attention. For example, if she's with a group of friends, say hello first. These friends will giggle, but that's part of the game.
- If you know each other, use their name the next time you talk to them. Say, Hi Julie, are you okay?, she will feel special.
- Don't give it too much attention either. Make her wonder if you think about her or not, she will like you even more!
- Flirt with her. Be playful and tease her a little bit, being careful not to upset her.
Step 3. Make sure she likes you
You don't have to be 100% sure that she wants to date you, but it would be good to have a vague idea of her feelings before taking the first step, this will give you more confidence and you will avoid make her uncomfortable. It would also be good to know if she is falling for someone else or if she is dating someone else and to know what she thinks of you.
- When you walk past, does she blush, greet you, or ignore you completely?
- If you want to know what she is thinking, you can try asking your friends. Don't ask her friends, however, as they will immediately report your question to her and she will know you like it.
- To find out if she likes you, see how her friends act when you see her. Do they start to giggle? To give him little nudges? If so, there's a good chance she likes you.
Step 4. Pick the right place at the right time
Don't invite him out on a whim or you won't be prepared and know what to say. Your options might be rather limited in Grade 6, so you can talk to her after school, in your neighborhood, or somewhere where you can get out of the way without her panicking. Don't isolate yourself too much, as she probably isn't used to being alone with a boy, but get away far enough that her friends can't see you.
You can ask her to meet you after school or find her at school and go talk to her. Just make sure she isn't distracted by anything else and is in a good mood
Step 5. Find a place to invite her
If you invite her out, you won't be able to just stay silent when she accepts. You must know where you will take him! You could go to the carnival together or eat pizza. If you know she likes video games, you can invite her to play at your place. You could also just go for a walk in the mall or see a movie. The more specific your plan, the more likely it is that she will agree.
A proposition like "I know that (such and such a film) is happening right now." Do you want to go see him with me? "Will be much more effective than a simple" Do you want to go out with me? "
Part 2 of 3: invite her out
Step 1. Insulate yourself sufficiently
Again, this only means that her friends shouldn't be glued to you. Try talking to her right after school, at a birthday party, or somewhere where you can be alone with her for a few moments. Don't ask her before class, she might still be tired, and if she refuses it might be embarrassing to have to spend all day in the same class afterwards.
Go see her at recess. This is usually the time when the boys invite the girls out. The challenge will be to keep her away from her friends
Step 2. Trust yourself
If you want her to accept your invitation, she must think you know what you are doing. Don't be too nervous, don't stutter, stomp, or look at the ground. Look her in the eye and smile. Make her believe that you are completely comfortable with the situation, so that she too feels comfortable. Walk right up to her, wave at her and say "Hi!""
- Practice in front of the mirror to be more comfortable.
- Remember that the worst that can happen is if she refuses. It won't be the end of the world!
Step 3. Speak
Tell him a few things before moving on to the topic. A simple "Hi! Do you want to go out with me ? »Will not go very well. Instead, try "Are you okay?" How is your day ? Or "Do you do something after school?" And add one or two trivialities before trying your luck. This will make her feel more comfortable and have an idea of what you are going to ask her.
Prepare something to say or a question to ask so that you are more comfortable when the time comes
Step 4. Get to the point
Compliment her or just tell her that you like her very much and ask her if she would like to date you. It's that simple. You can practice in front of the mirror to be more comfortable. Don't spend more than a few minutes with her before asking her the question or she may be undecided. Take a deep breath, look her in the eye and spit it out. You'll feel a lot better once you finally invite her.
Read his body language. Is she getting closer to you? Is she smiling at you? Does she sound nervous? If so, she will probably agree
Step 5. React the right way, no matter what
There are only two possibilities: either she accepts or she refuses. If she accepts, great! Tell her you're happy, without sounding too excited, and give her a quick hug if you know her enough. Then suggest where you would like to go and start preparing for the date.
If she refuses, hold your head up high and thank her for agreeing to talk to you and be nice to you. Don't insult her or be hurtful or she will lose all respect for you. Be a good player and start thinking about someone else …
Part 3 of 3: Use other strategies to invite a girl out
Step 1. Leave him a note on his desk
It's a cute way to invite her out. If you know where she's sitting in class, drop her a note on her desk to let her know that you like her and that you would like to invite her out. Arrange the word so that she finds it right away and is alone then. If she finds out with a group of friends, they'll both tease you. Keep it short. Just write “I like you. Do you want to go out with me ? And the message will be passed!
Step 2. Invite her out with a small gift
Offer her a small pair of earrings, a bouquet of flowers or a pretty notebook. Accompany the gift with a note inviting him to go out or ask him the question yourself when offering him the gift. The gift should be very modest, so that she doesn't feel uncomfortable if she refuses.
Step 3. Ask your friends to talk to him
It wouldn't be a good technique if you were older and experienced, but if you are only 12 years old, you can very well ask a friend to go talk to him, to see if he likes you. This will reduce the pressure and make you feel less uncomfortable if things don't go the way you want.
Step 4. Take her out on the Internet
You're officially too young to be on Facebook, but if you're both active on social media or have his email address, this might be a good way to invite him out. Make sure she logs into her account regularly, so she knows she will read your message.
Step 5. Give him a card
If it's the holidays, her birthday, Valentine's Day, or even for no special reason, give her a cute card to invite her out on a date. She will feel special because you have made the effort to choose a card and she will see that you have thought of her and thought about how to invite her. You will also look more mature.
Step 6. Be Creative
If you're brave and creative, you can think of endless ways to invite him out. Send him a paper plane with a note indicating your interest. Serenade her at recess. Bake him a cookie with a message on the frosting. Bookmark her with a note and slip it into the book she's reading. Being creative means you have to be willing to take risks, but if you have nothing to lose, it will be a good way to get his attention.