Remember that old high school saying: "Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me." This has never been true and it certainly is not today that it will be. The vast majority of children say they have been bullied and provoked at least once. Bullying and provocation are similar, but intention is one of the key things that sets them apart. Teasing turns into bullying when it is repetitive behavior with a deliberate intention to hurt or hurt another child. Bullying is one of the biggest issues in our schools. The percentage of students who have been bullied at least once a week has increased significantly since the 2000s. Bullying makes children feel hurt, alone, scared, sad and embarrassed. Worse, going to school becomes a real ordeal for them, it scares them a lot and they end up losing all desire to go there. However, there are a few tips and tricks you can use to deal with it in school.
Part 1 of 4: tell someone
Step 1. Talk to your parents or someone you trust
If you are being bullied, it is extremely important that you talk to an adult first and foremost.
- Tell the whole story to your parents. Your parents are there to help you and they need to know what's going on with you. In addition, they can approach school officials to put an end to the problem. This is even more important if you are reluctant to tell your teacher or fear retaliation from the bully.
- It is very useful that you keep a journal in which you will write down everything that happens to you. This will allow you to accurately inform your parents and other adults about certain incidents.
Step 2. Speak out against acts of intimidation and persecution
Denounce acts of bullying and persecution at school. Inform the teachers, the principal and any other adult intervening in the school. These people can step in and stop the bullying. Bullies sometimes stop when a teacher finds out what they're doing because they fear getting into trouble.
- Teachers are particularly important sources of support in the event of bullying. They will protect you from bullying by letting you stay in the classroom during recess or by placing you under the care of a buddy.
- It is very important that your school is informed of all cases of bullying that you experience, as it is possible that other children will also be bullied by the same person.
Step 3. Speak clearly about the harassment
Just telling someone what you're going through will give you a bit of relief. It is best to speak to a guidance counselor, sibling, or friend. He will help you solve your problem. When talking about your problem, also consider discussing it with your parents or school staff. Just talking about what you're going through and your feelings will help you feel less alone.
According to some children, peer support programs have been very successful in their schools
Step 4. Don't be afraid to express yourself
Talking about it to an adult is in no way denouncing it. Bullying is not a trivial or trivial problem. It is wrong and it is important that all those who are victims or witnesses to speak about it.
Remember, you can't cope with bullying on your own. No one can, not even adults. Getting help is the best thing to do in case of abuse, bullying, harassment or assault
Part 2 of 4: avoid the bully
Step 1. Avoid the stalker as much as possible
Don't give him the opportunity to intimidate you by avoiding any quarrels between the two of you.
- Think about the different places where you are often bullied and avoid them.
- Consider taking a different route from your home to school, but also change the routes inside your school.
- Don't miss class and avoid hiding. You have the right to study and educate yourself.
Step 2. Feel good about yourself
Ask yourself what makes you feel good and look great. Focus on your strengths, talents and goals.
- For example, do you want to be in better physical shape? If so, start by spending less time on the couch watching TV and more time exercising.
- By feeling good about yourself, you will have more self-confidence and better self-esteem. It will also allow you to be more confident at school and to be less afraid of meeting the person who is bullying you.
- Spend more time with friends who are a good influence on you. Play a sport or join groups. It will allow you to meet people, make good friendships and be more confident.
Step 3. Stay upright and keep your cool
Sometimes, it only takes courage to dissuade the stalker from approaching you and bullying you.
- Standing up straight and keeping your head up will show her that you're not ready to let it go so easily.
- It's easier to take action and show courage when you're confident and good about yourself. It is also something that one can learn to do. Try to walk with your head held high, make eye contact with people, and greet everyone you know who is looking at you. Practice using a strong, bossy tone (and not yelling). Remember, it is by forging that you become a blacksmith.
Step 4. Use the buddy system
If you're trying to run away from a bully, remember that two people are better than one. For example, avoid being alone, bring a friend or a group of friends to school. At recess, stay with them and avoid being alone. In other words, always remember to be surrounded by your friends at all times, especially when you think you might be bullied.
If you have a friend, remember to act as one. Be there for him if you notice he's being bullied. Don't be passive if you see your friend being bullied. Take action, after all, you know how difficult it is to be bullied. Talk to an adult. Support your friend and ask the bully to stop. Comfort people who are being bullied with sweet, kind words
Step 5. Ignore the bully
Don't care if he says or does anything to you. Try to ignore his threats as much as possible. Pretend you can't hear what he is saying and immediately go to a safe place.
Bullies always hope that we react to their provocations. Pretending not to notice or care about it (even if it scares you anyway) will cause him to stop adopting this behavior towards you since he will know that he can never get it. the reaction he expects from you
Part 3 of 4: stand up for yourself
Step 1. Know that you have the right not to be bullied
It is not your fault that you are being persecuted. You deserve, like everyone else, to feel safe.
Step 2. Say "no"
In a loud and firm voice, say to him: “No! Stopped ! Then go away or run away if you feel the need to.
- Standing up to him by simply saying "no" will let him know that you aren't afraid of him and that you don't like his behavior. Bullies often prey on children who cannot stand up for themselves and who they think will accept their abuse and do whatever they want.
- Unity is strength. Children can defend each other by asking the bully to stop bullying or scaring one of their own and walking away together with them.
Step 3. Hide your feelings
Get ready. How can you help but get mad or show that you are upset?
Try to distract yourself. Countdown from 100, sing your favorite song in your head, spell the words backwards, etc. Keep your mind busy until you get out of the situation so that you control your emotions and not give the bully what they want
Step 4. Don't be intimidated
When confronting someone who is bullying you or your friends, avoid kicking, punching, or slapping them. Don't push her. By fighting back, you will do exactly what she expects of you and at the same time you will show her that she can reach you.
Responding can also be dangerous. You could hurt someone, be hurt and get in trouble. Surround yourself with other people, find yourself a safe place and take refuge there, tell the first adult you meet
Part 4 of 4: eliminate bullying from your school
Step 1. Get everyone involved
This means that everyone in the school, whether teachers, administrators and students, must agree to make the school a safe and bully-free area.
Even people who are not directly involved in the school, such as bus drivers, need to be supported and trained on anti-bullying issues
Step 2. Walk the talk
It takes more than a simple demonstration or a few signs declaring a bully-free zone to truly create a safe environment for students.
- Changes the perception that children have of their fellow human beings. For example, creating an anti-bullying program will teach children lessons, so they will learn a lot about other children, especially those who come from different ethnicities, backgrounds and cultures or who have different abilities or learning styles. Teachers can also teach students solidarity by assigning them group projects, which will teach them to compromise and assert themselves without being too demanding.
- It is important to openly discuss the rules about bullying and its consequences. To raise public awareness in this area, it is essential to display these rules publicly at school, send them to parents and publish them in community newspapers. So many people will be touched by the message and will start to change gradually.
Step 3. Strengthen surveillance
The majority of school bullying occurs in places less supervised by adults, such as locker rooms, washrooms, cafeterias, hallways and school buses.
- Schools must address this issue by stepping up surveillance of their premises by more adults or by using more effective security techniques, including closed-circuit cameras.
- Schools can also set up anonymous reporting means such as suggestion boxes or hotlines where students can leave voice messages or send text messages.