Starting high school can be an overwhelming challenge. You are in a school where everyone seems to be sure about what they are doing and how to do it. The truth is, no one feels completely sure of themselves in high school. Nonetheless, you can find your place and a good group of friends to spend your high school years.
Part 1 of 3: Find a group of friends
Step 1. Start early
Most high schools organize an orientation day during which you can visit the high school. While you're at it, try chatting with people there to find common ground.
For example, you could say, “Hi, my name is Jean, is this your first year here too? I'm gonna join the band and you? "
Step 2. Join clubs
Most high schools have clubs and activities that you can participate in, depending on your interests. The best thing about joining a club is that you will meet teens who have the same interests as you, which gives you something to talk about.
- For example, you could join a speaker club or an art club, you could even be part of the school marching band or choir. You will find that there are other students who love art or music, not just you.
- If you can't find a club you like, ask if it's possible to start a club based on what interests you. Just make sure the topic is appropriate before asking. You may also need a teacher to support you.
Step 3. Make sure you meet the same people
This means that the more you meet the same group of people, the more familiar you will become. Over time, you will become closer and closer to these people. For example, try to have lunch with the same group of people. Alternatively, this group can also be made up of classmates or people you meet in clubs or during extracurricular activities.
Step 4. Keep in touch with your old friends
Some teens you knew in college come into high school the same time you do. Try to keep hanging out with your old friends, even those you weren't very close to. You might find you have more in common now that you're in high school.
When you see old friends in the hallways, don't forget to say hello. Ask if they have time to see you or if you can do your homework together to discuss the good old days
Part 2 of 3: make friends
Step 1. Introduce yourself
Others cannot know who you are if you never say anything. Don't be afraid to introduce yourself or speak in class or during meetings.
Begin by saying hello to the students around you in the classroom before the bell rings. You might say, "Hi, my name is Jessica, this is my first day at this school and I'm a little nervous how about you?" "
Step 2. Try to spend time with people you love
When you find other teens you like, ask them if you can join them. For example, let's say you see a student in the canteen with whom you have a common lesson. Ask if you can sit with him.
For example, you could say, "Hey, we're doing math together, can I sit down with you?" "
Step 3. Tell others what you like about them
People love to hear compliments. When you do one to someone, it opens the doors for conversation. He feels good and you are going to feel good too.
The best compliments are precise. For example, instead of saying, “I think you're smart,” you could say, “It's amazing how quickly you figured out what the math teacher was talking about, you're a math wizard! "
Step 4. Talk to the other teens
One of the ways to turn others into friends is to learn more about their lives. It means you have to get them to talk to them. For example, ask them what their favorite subjects are or what they like to do outside of school.
For example, you could say, “What do you like to do in your spare time? "Or" Do you have a favorite video game? "
Step 5. Be kind
One of the best ways to make friends is to show others that you are kind. You prefer people who are nice to you, don't you? Well, everyone does! Try to bring something good to share with a new friend or help a student who has dropped their books in the hallway. These little acts of kindness can help you make new friends.
Step 6. Accept others for who they are
As you want to integrate, everyone wants it too. It can be tempting to exclude people who are not like you, but then you are doing what you are trying to avoid in others. In other words, you are making the problem worse. No one is perfect, you have to accept others as they are.
This does not mean that you should be friends with students who are mean to you or who harass you. Rather, it means that you shouldn't try to exclude someone just because you think they're a little weird
Part 3 of 3: be part of a group
Step 1. Try to be a part rather than integrate yourself
Fitting in means you want to become like the rest of the group. In high school (and in adulthood) it can be very tempting. It's easier to hide facets of your personality than to stay genuine and risk being rejected from a group. However, you are going to feel bad over time if you are not really you. In addition, by letting your personality shine, you will find people like you, which will allow you to create a strong group of friends.
Fitting in also often means that you have to change to go unnoticed in the group. Being a part implies that the group wants you along with the rest of its members
Step 2. Accept your differences
Everyone is unique with unique thoughts, ideas and feelings. Yes, you are different from others, but everyone is. What does this mean for the purposes of this article? You have to accept your differences and find people who want to accept those differences as well.
Step 3. Be patient
Sometimes it will take a little while to find a group of friends. You might feel lonely sometimes. If you keep trying, you will find a group of people who care about you as a person.
Meanwhile, do what you love to do and join groups that share your interests. Continue to say hello to others in your class
Step 4. Form a group of friends, not a clique
You might have found a group of friends in your music group because you share passions. This is typical for groups of friends. Other times, groups of friends are formed because they share common values, for example because they have the same religion and you are welcomed by others. On the other hand, cliques push for compliance and they most often focus on one of their most popular members. The problem with cliques is that they intentionally exclude others so that they feel rejected.