How to know if you're ready to wear a bra

How to know if you're ready to wear a bra
How to know if you're ready to wear a bra

Buying the first bra is a real challenge for a girl. Just thinking about it, you probably feel aroused, uncomfortable, or a mixture of the 2. This is quite common and you should not be afraid. There are different ways to tell if you're ready to wear a bra, but you should remember that all girls are different and your breasts may grow at a different rate than your friends. In any case, it does not matter!


Part 1 of 3: Recognize the signs of breast development

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Step 1. See if your breasts are visible through your shirt

If your breasts are starting to bud, it's time to get your first bra. Budding breasts appear as small bumps visible under each nipple. However, when a girl starts to care about her breasts, you can buy some for her, regardless of her stage of physical development.

  • The breasts become tender and sore at this stage of development. This is a normal phenomenon which should not scare you. It just means that you are starting to grow taller.
  • The nipples and the areola (the circle of skin around them) become darker and larger. The breasts start to gain volume and become pointed.
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Step 2. Know the average age of breast development

11 years old is the average age of wearing a bra for girls. However, some need it from 8 years old while others should only wear it at 14 years old. Girls don't all grow the same!

  • Sometimes girls who don't really need a bra ask to wear one because their friends do. You can offer them a training bra.
  • You can also start by wearing a tank top under your usual outfit. Either way, it's okay if you don't grow up as fast as the other girls. Everyone grows at their own pace and there is nothing to worry about.
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Step 3. Learn to recognize the signs of puberty

Budding breasts are just one of the many changes a girl's body goes through as she enters puberty.

  • Pubic hair can grow. In some girls, pubic hair growth occurs before the breasts bud.
  • Puberty is often accompanied by weight gain, especially in the stomach which seems more rounded. It is the natural sign that a girl is becoming physically mature.
  • It is also possible that the girl is having her period, although it can be very irregular at first. All these signs indicate that the girl has reached the stage of puberty.

Part 2 of 3: Choosing Your First Bra

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Step 1. Try on a workout bra

Girls can wear a workout bra or a bra when their breasts start to grow. These styles are much more comfortable and almost look like cropped tops. They will make you less uncomfortable thanks to their relative discretion.

  • Your first bra should be very comfortable. A young girl has no reason to wear a fancy or lace-up bra. Training bras are generally made of simple, flexible cotton. They don't have caps.
  • Sports bras are perfect in physical education class and on a sports team. Since they are designed to be more flattened at the cups and are very comfortable, you can choose them as your first bra, even if you don't play sports.
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Step 2. Choose a soft cup bra

Choose a soft cup bra if you have large breasts. If the tissue under the pimple is rapidly increasing in volume and you have an A cup or larger, purchase a soft cup bra.

  • Take your measurements or have your mom take them every 4 weeks. This way you will know when a soft cup bra is needed. This type of support does not tighten or alter the shape of the breasts in any way. Not only is it perfect for young girls, it is also very comfortable.
  • Underwired bras are also great as a first bra. They offer more support for girls with large breasts, but since you are just entering your growth phase, they are probably not needed.
  • If you want, you can choose a bra that is the same color as your skin tone so that it doesn't show through your top. Shop for styles in different colors to match your outfit and make them invisible through what you wear (for example, avoid wearing a black bra with a white top).
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Step 3. Learn as much as you can about bras

A girl must learn the things that an older woman already masters.

  • For example, a girl should know that it is not necessary to wear a bra at night. Some models are padded when others are not. However, padding is unnecessary during the early stages of puberty.
  • You can use a laundry net to protect your bras during washing.
  • You will find lines of children's bras in many supermarkets and lingerie stores. They are perfect as a first bra.

Part 3 of 3: Learn About Bra Sizes

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Step 1. Ask your mother

Ask your mother or another adult to find out about puberty. For most girls, buying the first bra is a difficult experience. You might be worried that boys will tease you, or that other girls' breasts will grow faster (or slower). Know that these feelings are completely normal. Who knows ? Your mother may be the first to tell you about this.

  • Ask your mom or another adult to give you a book about puberty. Explain to her what your body is going through right now. Don't be ashamed of how you feel. Sometimes boys tease girls about bras. If this is your case, fear not. It's pretty common, but don't hesitate to tell an adult about it.
  • Know that women are beautiful regardless of the size of their breasts. Girls feel fear when they have small breasts and get teased when they are big. No woman has the same shapes and the same measurements.
  • Don't be afraid if you are uncomfortable. Tell yourself that this is normal at your age.
  • If you have a daughter, avoid bringing up the topic with other people (friends or relatives) in front of her.
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Step 2. Know how the bra size is calculated

Choose the right bra size for maximum comfort and optimal support.

  • The bra sizes are defined according to the chest circumference and the cup. The chest measurement is an even number, such as 32, 34, 36 and so on. The cup size is in letters, like A, B or C. In other countries, like the UK, the cup size is different (AA, A, B, C, D, DD, etc.).
  • The lingerie store clerk will take your measurements, but you can do this at home or ask your mom or big sister to help you. Take a tape measure. To determine your chest measurement, pass the tape measure under your breasts and around your back. Hold it firmly, but not too tightly. Add 15 to the number obtained to obtain a French size.
  • For the cup size, wrap the tape measure firmly around your body, on the tip of your breasts. Subtract the number obtained by your chest measurement. The result should be between 2, 5 and 10 cm. This is how you calculate your cup size.
  • If you get less than 2.5cm, you have AA cup. If you get 2.5cm your cup size is A, 5cm = B, 7.5cm = C and 10cm = D. If you come across a weird number, round up to the next even number. This is all the more important in young girls, because they grow so fast that if you round down, their bras will not fit them very long. They are ready to wear a bra when they reach cup A.
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Step 3. Know how to wear a bra

Don't be ashamed to tell your mom you don't know how to put on a bra. Most girls need help at this point and it's safe to ask her.

  • To put on a bra, put your arms through the straps and lean forward to bring your breasts into the cups. Fasten the clip behind your back (training and sports bras do not have a clip, making them a good choice for a first bra).
  • Adjust the straps if necessary and close the clip on another eyelet to change the size.
  • Have your mom take you back to the lingerie store to take your measurements and buy your first bra. Some mothers will take this day to spend time with their daughters.


  • If you are a mother, keep your daughter's privacy safe. She probably doesn't want anyone to know she's wearing a bra. If she tells someone about it, tell yourself it's okay.
  • Don't be embarrassed to talk to your mom about it. Remember that at one point in her life she went through the same thing!
  • Remember that every girl is different. Don't worry if your breasts take longer to grow.
  • If you're embarrassed to talk to your mom about it, drop her a line. somewhere where only she can find it !
  • If you decide to talk to your mom about it, go to your room or hers for more privacy. No one is likely to disturb you or make fun of your conversation.
  • If you're afraid to talk to your parents about it, talk to your big sister because she's been through the same thing. She will make sure everything is going well and she will help you talk to your parents about it.

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