How to deal with your teenager's arrest: 10 steps (with pictures)

How to deal with your teenager's arrest: 10 steps (with pictures)
How to deal with your teenager's arrest: 10 steps (with pictures)

If your teenager has been arrested, it is important that you stay calm and seek help from a legal professional quickly. Try to find out more about the situation, but don't push your child to incriminate himself or to confess. Let the lawyer handle the situation with the police and act as your child's representative.


Part 1 of 3: assess the situation

Deal With Your Teen Getting Arrested Step 1

Step 1. Keep Calm

If the police have just called you to let you know that your teenager has been arrested and is in custody at the local police station, it is important that you keep your cool. You might be angry, worried, and upset, but you need to stay calm in order to deal with the situation in the most effective way possible.

  • Do not rush to judge your child or the police officers who arrested him.
  • You need to react quickly and get to where your child is being held, but you need to find out more about the situation before you take any action.
Deal With Your Teen Getting Arrested Step 2

Step 2. Find out what is going on

As soon as you receive the call, you should automatically go to the police station. You should try to have as much information as possible about the arrest and the circumstances under which it happened. Try to talk to your child in person, but be aware that you have limited rights. Usually, you are given the opportunity to speak to him before he is questioned, but you do not have any federal rights that may allow you to be present during the questioning.

  • Regulations vary by region. Some cities even require the presence of parents during the questioning.
  • It is important that the child's lawyer is present, but not necessarily his parents.
  • In most cases, it is up to the investigating officer to decide whether a parent should be present or not.
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Step 3. Don't try to play the role of a lawyer

You will likely be angry and angry with your child, but it is important that you act calmly and seek the help of a lawyer. Do not try to play the latter or have anything done that might cause your child to self-incriminate. The best thing to do is to say nothing until a lawyer is present.

  • Well-meaning parents can make their child's situation worse by inadvertently waiving their rights or giving permission to search their home unnecessarily.
  • Even if you know your child has behaved badly, you should not get them to talk to the police or to confess.
  • The police can stop the prosecution, but a criminal record can have a big impact on the rest of your child's life.

Part 2 of 3: Getting legal help

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Step 1. Hire a lawyer

If the police intend to charge your child with a crime, you should automatically seek the help of a legal professional. You must hire a lawyer who is a specialist in juvenile law. They will be more focused and have more experience in dealing with juvenile problems and will make sure to find a solution that is in the best interests of your child.

  • It could be, for example, a drug treatment program, therapy, or something else.
  • Criminal law tends to associate these secondary elements with the punishment of the culprit.
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Step 2. Exchange information with your lawyer

If you have any information that can help in your child's case, you should be sure to share it as soon as possible with your lawyer. The latter needs as much information as possible in order to better advocate for your child. For example, if you know of witnesses who could plead on behalf of your child, you should inform the lawyer immediately.

  • If your child has learning disabilities or mental health issues, you should clearly explain this to the lawyer.
  • The resolution of a case will take these factors into account. Even if you think these are not helpful, provide this information to your lawyer and discuss how to proceed.
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Step 3. Gather all the documents used to support your child's case

If the case continues and ends up in court, one of the things you can do to help your child is to collect reports and documents that testify to your child's character. Try to find records of your child's certificates and achievements. Gather all of her report cards and think about who you can contact for letters of recommendation. You can ask this of his teachers, church members, employers, or neighbors.

  • Be careful how you make your reference requests relating to your child's characters. You will need to be honest and explain why you need it.
  • Either way, you will often be asked to present their report cards to court.
  • Don't take it upon yourself to write to a judge about your child or submit the documents directly.
  • Always consult your lawyer and follow their advice on what to do and what not to do.

Part 3 of 3: talk to your child

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Step 1. Address the problem

Your child is very likely to be released on bail, so you will need to take the time to go over the whole situation with them. It could be difficult and painful, but it is crucial that you address the problem and try to find a solution together. Your reactions to the situation can have a big impact on how your child goes. Try to discuss as directly as possible the root causes that may have led to the criminal behavior.

  • For example, say This is a serious situation and I would like you to explain to me how it got there.
  • It is important that you understand the seriousness of the situation.
  • If your child is having trouble talking to you, encourage them to talk to a qualified counselor.
  • Sometimes people have an easier time explaining their problems and how they are feeling to a stranger.
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Step 2. Reassure your child

Arrest is a difficult experience, and your offspring will be scared and uncertain, even if they don't seem like it. It's important that you strike the right balance between making sure he understands the gravity of the situation and takes responsibility for his actions and reassuring him that there is a way out.

  • Let him know that you will put up with him and help him make things right.
  • Say for example You did something wrong, but you can work it out and learn from the experience.
  • Reassure him that you still love him, but also explain to him how his actions hurt you.
  • If he can see the impact his actions are having on you, it might be a way for him to change.
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Step 3. Support her and work together

It is crucial that you assume your responsibilities as a parent and understand that non-custodial sentences are to some extent dependent on the parents. You need to work collaboratively with your child to make sure they are following all of their assigned programs. This could be a drug treatment program, therapy sessions, or community service appointments.

  • All of these programs will require active participation and if he fails to take part he may be taken into police custody.
  • The parent will usually be required to attend these programs with the child and for this it is important that you work together to overcome this ordeal.
  • Try to think of this as an opportunity to correct mistakes before the consequences get too drastic.
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Step 4. Make sure your child knows their rights

While working to correct any criminal behavior and seeking help in dealing with any substance abuse and alcohol problem, it is crucial that your child learns more about their rights at the time they have been arrested by the police. For one reason or another, your offspring may be arrested again. Acting in a calm manner knowing full well how to proceed can make all the difference. A repeat offense is much more serious than the first offense.

  • Make sure the child understands that he has the right to ask to speak to a lawyer before saying anything to the police.
  • He must understand that a police officer can make him believe that he has as much information as he really has.
  • Your child should know that anything he says to the police can be used against him. Something that seems trivial at this point may be different in court.
  • In principle, do not tell the police before talking to a lawyer.

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