It sometimes happens that after having an argument with your friend, you want to reconnect with him. If you are in this situation now, do not panic. Whether you want to discuss it with him face to face, write him a message or send him a gift, know that by putting into practice a few tips and tricks, you will in no time be able to reconcile with him and put the pieces back together. your broken friendship.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: talking face to face
Step 1. Take the time to think
Take a moment (or more) to remember the great qualities of your friend and the main reasons you are friends.
Step 2. Spend some time alone
Go to your room and calm down for a few moments. Relax and think about the good times you had with your friend, or think about what to say to them when you see them.
Step 3. Let yourself be guided by your good impressions
May the good feelings in your friendship give you the courage to talk to your friend. Someone has to take the first step, and the mere fact that you're reading this article shows that you care enough for them to be the one you do.
Step 4. Ask for forgiveness
Even if you weren't at fault, start by apologizing to her for the way you reacted. Tell him you care. Remind her of a good memory that you both share, it can help you start a good conversation. Now is definitely not the time to go back to what was at the root of your argument, but rather to focus exclusively on why your friendship matters to you and how to mend it.
Step 5. Wait for it to be ready
Talk about the argument or incident as soon as you feel your friend is willing to talk about it. Check out the 'tips' section below for some tips you can apply during the conversation to keep it going in a positive and productive way.
Step 6. Expect him not to be ready to fix things yet
See the "tips" below for what to do in this case. Be patient and understanding about her feelings and control "your" emotions.
Step 7. Tell him you care about him
Whether or not he's ready to fix things, remind him how much you care about him and your friendship.
Step 8. Give her a hug
Part 2 of 3: Send a written message
Step 1. Determine the mode of communication
Choose between writing him a note or sending him a text message.
Step 2. Write the letter with software
If you want to send him a letter, use word processing software like Word to do it. This will allow you to purge your text of any spelling and grammar errors that there may be. Your friend deserves the best, right?
Step 3. Use formal language
If you decide to text her, use only formal language and avoid terms like "LOL" or "MDR". You can use emoticons like smileys, as long as they are positive and reinforce the sincerity of your feelings.
Step 4. Underline something you like about him
Start the message with something you like about it. Show him that you care and that is why you would like to work things out with him.
Step 5. Be succinct and to the point
Keep the letter or message as short and to the point as possible. Avoid repeating yourself or straying from what you are trying to say.
Step 6. Be sincere
Be upfront about your feelings and avoid blaming him. Remember: the message should be short and to the point.
Step 7. Offer to meet him
At the end of your message, invite them for a face-to-face meeting. Let him know that you miss him and that you hope to hear from him very soon.
Part 3 of 3: send a gift
Step 1. Give him a symbolic gift
Give her a gift that evokes something that both of you enjoy. For example, if you and your friend enjoy having lunch at a particular restaurant, get a voucher from that restaurant and give it to them.
Step 2. Deliver the gift personally
If you can't do it, leave it at home. Keep the gift private and avoid telling other people about it.
Step 3. Include a letter with the gift
Put a letter on the gift stating why you are giving it to him and that you want to fix things as soon as he feels ready. Tell him you hope to hear from him soon.
Advice
- It is possible that your friend is not ready yet or does not want to reconcile with you, so use diplomacy when talking with him, however, do not forget to express your true feelings to him or he could misunderstand the situation. message.
- It is possible that he is not ready or does not want to come to terms with you, respect his decision if so.
- Don't be the only one talking and don't just talk about yourself. Let him say what he wants to say. Then he will know that you really want to rebuild your friendship.
- You don't need to be too serious to rebuild your friendship. Use colloquial words to remind her how much fun you are.
- If you want to have a one-to-one chat with him, consider making some arrangements.
- Find a private and quiet place to chat.
- Maintain eye contact during the conversation.
- Be honest about your feelings and avoid “pointing fingers” at your friend.
- Be careful ! Give your friend all the time they need to share their feelings with you (and they will likely do the same for you).
- If he's not yet ready to renew the friendship, let him know you understand him and are willing to give him all the time he needs to make things better.
- Start by telling him that you appreciate the time he takes to chat with you and hope that you can reconnect with your friendship soon.
- If you want to send her a written message, there are a number of things you need to think about.
- Keep things simple and short.
- Be positive and avoid blaming him.
- Do not use terms like "LOL" or "MDR".
- Consider writing a draft of the message that you can read and edit as needed.
- If you want to send her a gift, think about some things.
- Make the gift as personal as possible.
- It doesn't have to be expensive to make sense.
- Don't forget to include a letter explaining why you are offering it to him.
- It's okay for good friends to argue, but if you are very angry with him, avoid telling you any secrets as much as possible. At the time, it may sound like a good revenge, but it won't get you anywhere in the long run.
- When buying the gift, always remember to take chocolate.
- Don't just say “sorry,” get into the details. Say what makes you sorry, what prompted you to do it, etc.
- If he's not ready to mend your friendship, keep your cool. He can change his mind later and if he doesn't, you can still stick with your other friends.
- Do not interrupt him when he is speaking. Listen to the observations he makes, wait for him to finish, and respond respectfully to him with maturity. Also avoid vociferating.
- Prepare for his reaction. If he's not ready to talk about it yet, it might hurt you when it sure isn't what he wants.
- Sometimes the situation can be so bad that you can never be reconciled. Even if it wasn't your fault, your friend might feel guilty and think they don't deserve your friendship.
Warnings
- Do not involve other people, be sure to maintain confidentiality and respect between you and your friend.
- When you are in front of him, don't speak up or threaten him if things get a little heated.
Remembering positive things about your friend and breathing slowly will help keep your cool
- Don't be afraid that you might not agree with him.
Each of you has something unique to contribute to your friendship, so celebrate your differences