It can be difficult to know who his true friends are. It can involve a lot of emotion and some confusion. Evaluate your friendships to determine who your best friends really are. How much time do you spend with these friends? Do you communicate well with them? Are they supporting you? Are they there for you when needed? Throughout this assessment process, stay open, patient and honest!
Steps
Part 1 of 5: Evaluating Time Spent With Friends
Step 1. Ask yourself who solicits your company the most
A true friend wants to spend time with you. Best friends plan common activities and experiences to enjoy together. They are also the ones to whom you most often suggest doing things in common!
Step 2. Determine who you spend the most time with
Best friends make an effort to spend time with you. Your best friends are there for all the important events in your life, whether it's your wedding or a funeral. They are also there for smaller events, such as birthdays or sporting events. You also spend time together just like that, for no particular reason.
Step 3. Ask yourself why you are spending time with your friends
Best friends spend time together because they genuinely enjoy each other's company. Best friends are there all year round, not just during the school year or sports season. Your best friends also don't just hang out with you when it's helpful or to use your pool.
Part 2 of 5: Know How Your Friends Communicate
Step 1. Ask yourself which of your friends knows how to listen to you the best
Best friends listen carefully. When you talk, a real friend should listen to you without checking their phone every 5 minutes.
Step 2. See if your friends are talking about themselves
Best friends want to know the difficulties that the other meets, their fears and also their dreams. A friend who always brings the conversation back to himself is not a true friend. A friend who never asks how you're doing doesn't really want to know you.
If you or your friend has had a bad day, it's normal for one person to talk more than the other for a while
Step 3. Evaluate your friends' reaction time
Real friends respond to text messages. They return your calls. They pick up the phone, even when you call them early in the morning. Friends who don't respond or only respond when they want to are unreliable. If they don't pick up the phone in the middle of the night, though, it's probably just that they need some sleep.
Part 3 of 5: know if your friends are loyal
Step 1. Ask yourself if your friends can keep a secret
When you share a secret with a friend, they don't have to tell it all to the first person they meet. The relationships you have with your friends should be built on trust and respect. They don't spread rumors about you, they silence them!
Step 2. Determine which friends are behind you
True friends support each other no matter what. A friend will stand up for you in your absence, won't spread rumors about you, or join in teasing or gossiping about you.
Step 3. Assess their ability to forgive
Everyone makes mistakes, even best friends. True friends don't hold grudges or sulk. On the contrary, they encourage communication and explain how they were upset. They talk, they don't scream. They apologize when they make mistakes and eventually forgive themselves after an argument.
Part 4 of 5: Find out if our friends can support us
Step 1. Ask yourself if your friends are really happy for you
When you achieve something, your friends should be the first to congratulate you. Best friends don't feel like they are in competition, they support each other. A jealous friend is not a true friend.
Step 2. Evaluate their ability to encourage you
True friends are able to give you confidence before a professional exam or interview. They are encouraging and positive rather than bringing you down with criticism. True friends don't put each other down.
Step 3. Recognize friends who are a good influence
True friends encourage good behavior. Your best friend should get you to make the right decisions about you because they care about your health, well-being, and safety. Friends who embarrass you or put you in an awkward position don't really care about your own best interests.
Part 5 of 5: drawing conclusions
Step 1. Think about the outcome of your analysis
Take the time to think about your answers to the previous questions. Spend a few hours writing down your thoughts or go for a long walk.
Step 2. Talk to your best friends
After you've taken the time to think about it, talk to your best friends. Tell them how much you appreciate them. Write them a card, invite them to dinner, or bake them a cake!
Step 3. Continue to nurture your friendships
Now that you've identified your true friends, develop your relationships with them. Spend time together, make the effort to be present during important events as well as everyday. Never take your best friends for granted and keep the communication going.
Advice
- Find best friends who are genuine and true to themselves.
- True friends don't take advantage of each other. If someone asks you to do something you don't want to do, don't. In this kind of situation, your instincts are your best ally. A true friend cares about how you feel and doesn't force you to turn your back on your values.
- Friendship is not a one-way street. Don't be the only one calling to check in or go out.
- Communication is central.
- A true friend would never hurt you on purpose.
- Choose your best friend carefully. Some friends can be a bad influence. Choose to spend your time with people of good influence. This is the best way to find out who your friends really are.
- The person you get along with best and share the most things with is definitely your best friend.
- A true friend won't blame you if you haven't talked to them for a while. Apologize anyway, because everyone has their own sensitivity.