Making friends with boys can seem intimidating to some girls, but it's easier than it looks. By following a few steps, you can better get to know the guy you would like to befriend and build a long, solid relationship. First get to know him and then try to be his friend. After that, you can work on keeping the relationship going so that it lasts as long as possible.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Getting to know him
Step 1. Find out his interests
Ask friends you have in common about their favorite hobbies and hobbies. Visit his social media profile to find out which TV shows, movies, and songs he likes the most. Also pay attention to the sports he is used to playing at university (at school) or with his friends.
For example, you could ask his friends questions like, “What does Andre enjoy doing the most outside of school? Or "what's her favorite TV series?" "
Step 2. Follow him on social media
Try to find him and follow him on social media platforms such as Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat to find out what he likes. If he follows you as well, you can start building your friendship from there.
You can also use social media to find out more about what interests them and to communicate directly with them. In fact, you may feel more comfortable talking to him online, and from that point on, your friendship may start to develop
Step 3. Focus on the interests you have in common
People are often drawn to those with whom they have similar interests, and it will be easier for them to communicate with you if they notice these similarities. First, think about things you have in common with him. It could be a specific TV series or sport. Then use this thing to break the ice when you have a chance to talk to it for the first time.
- For example, you might know that he loves action movies or video games as much as you do.
- However, don't pretend to like something just to be friends with it. Chances are you will find at least one thing that you both like. So you don't need to pretend.
Step 4. Approach him when he is with other friends
If you don't have a lot of interaction with him, you might find it easier to connect with him when he's with friends you have in common. In case you have friends who know him too, ask them to introduce you when you are all together.
If you don't have any friends who know him, join a group or club he's a member of. Not only will this approach allow you to communicate more often, but it will have the benefit of creating a common interest that may seem more natural
Step 5. Have open body language when you are with him
In his presence, try to reflect an open and friendly attitude. In other words, avoid aggressive body language, like clenching your fists or crossing your arms. Instead, have open body language, for example, relaxing your arms, nodding, and smiling.
When talking to each other, be sure to make eye contact to show them that you care and are focused on what they are saying
Part 2 of 3: Friendship with a boy
Step 1. Invite him to do something with you
Even if this seems difficult, know that spending time alone with him can strengthen your friendship. Pick an activity you both enjoy and invite them to join you. By inviting her, try to get a clear idea of what you want to do and at the same time be open to suggestions.
For example, if you know he enjoys bowling, invite him over to play together. Not specifying a date is a sign of flexibility, but clarifying that you are bowling shows that you have considered his interests and relieved him of the burden or responsibility of planning what to do
Step 2. Try to maintain positive interactions
The human brain associates positive experiences with good emotions. It is therefore important to have interesting conversations and fun activities. In this way, he will associate the time spent with you with moments of happiness and will want to spend more time with you.
Step 3. Show him that you are a reliable person
Try not to make promises you can't keep. When planning your schedule, pick a date and time that you know you can stick to and always try to stay in touch with it. Otherwise, you can come across as a "wacky" person and make him feel like you don't care.
Part 3 of 3: Building a Strong and Lasting Relationship
Step 1. Open up to him
Once you feel more comfortable with him, you can ask him for advice on a personal issue or say something personal. Trusting him to the point of talking to him about these kinds of things can help bring a closeness to your relationship that only closest friends can have.
For example, when you are alone with him, talk about the problems you are having at home or at school. You can tell her how difficult it is for you to get along with your parents or talk to her about difficulties you have in certain subjects at school
Step 2. Learn to listen
Another way to build a meaningful relationship with him is to listen to him. Pay attention to what he says and ask him deep questions to show him that you care. Maintain eye contact and nod occasionally as he speaks.
- Try not to interrupt when he's talking to you. Encourage him to say more by saying something like “tell me more” or “I'm so interested in hearing your story”.
- You can also ask him deep questions, such as "How did you feel?" Or "why did you react like that".
Step 3. Be honest and trustworthy
Show her that you are a good friend by being trustworthy and up front about what you think. If he tells you a secret or confides in you, say you won't tell anyone. Do not divulge any information he has given you unless he gives you permission to do so. Confidence is one of the most difficult qualities to acquire and maintain, but it is the basis of true friendship.
Also, you should always be honest. In other words, don't lie to him or pretend. Tell her what you think or feel frankly and honestly
Step 4. Live new experiences together
Trying new things might sound scary, but you can invite them to join you. As well as helping to alleviate the anxiety you have about this experience that you have not yet had, it will have the advantage of not making this friendship boring.