3 ways to manage your puberty

3 ways to manage your puberty
3 ways to manage your puberty

Puberty is a strange and disturbing time for many teens. Whether you are a boy or a girl, you will not always be sure about the right attitude to adopt in the face of these changes in your life. You will indeed notice changes in the body, but don't worry: they are completely normal and occur in all of us. Knowing what to expect, however, will allow you to better manage your puberty.


Method 1 of 3: Manage change for girls and boys

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Step 1. Learn to control your body odor

As you go through puberty, you will definitely notice that you sweat more (especially under the armpits) and that your body odor is stronger. This is perfectly normal, but it doesn't mean that you shouldn't be concerned with your personal hygiene. So remember to shower daily and wear clean clothes. Apply deodorant every morning for a fresher, cleaner scent.

  • Some deodorants contain antiperspirants, which can also prevent sweating. A classic deodorant, not containing these agents, will not allow you to control your perspiration, but simply your body odor.
  • Your hair may also become oilier, so you will need to wash it more regularly than you usually do.
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Step 2. Treat your acne

During puberty, your skin will change due to hormonal changes, and this can cause acne to appear. You may also notice that your skin becomes drier or more oily. To combat these little skin problems, you need to wash your face twice a day with a mild product. Also apply an acne cream to prevent the appearance of pimples and to keep your skin well hydrated, especially if it tends to be dry.

  • Acne treatments contain benzoyl peroxide, sulfur, resorcinol or salicylic acid, which are very effective active ingredients. We all have unique skin types, so try different products before you find the one that works best for you.
  • Remember, however, that acne treatments can dry out your skin. You will therefore need to hydrate it after use.
  • Use an oil-free moisturizer, especially if you have acne. Oil-based moisturizers can indeed give you more breakouts. Creams containing sun protection can also protect you from UV damage.
  • Touching your pimples can make your acne worse, so avoid trying to pop them.
  • Avoid touching your face or leaving your hair in contact with your skin, as this can transfer oil to your facial skin and give you breakouts.
  • If you have serious skin problems and can't control them with over-the-counter products, make an appointment with a dermatologist.
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Step 3. Expect to grow taller

For some teens, puberty means at least a spike in growth. You will certainly grow several centimeters during this period and also gain weight which will affect changes in your morphology. If you are uncomfortable with your body during this time, try to remember that this is only temporary. Some people gain weight before they grow taller, and other teens will not. Either way, these changes are perfectly normal.

  • You will definitely be more comfortable in your body if you wear clothes that fit you. Ask your parents if you can buy new clothes (even if it's just a few pieces) if you notice that your clothes don't fit anymore. Remember, however, that your body may grow and change over a period of time.
  • Sometimes you will feel like your feet get strangely large during puberty, as they tend to grow taller faster than the rest of your body. Be aware that this strange feeling will not last forever and eventually your body will catch up with the growth of your feet.
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Step 4. Get used to the emotional changes

Puberty is caused by the hormonal flows of estrogen and testosterone. These hormones have an impact not only on our body shape, but also on how we feel. This makes it easier for you to feel angry or emotional than you used to be. There isn't much you can do about it, but recognizing these emotional changes will help you avoid taking it out on your loved ones.

  • You will not always be comfortable in your body during this time. Remember that these changes are perfectly normal.
  • Sometimes you will be more tired than normal, so remember to get a good rest. If this fatigue is too severe, talk to your doctor immediately.
  • Talking to another person about your feelings is sure to find comfort, especially if it's an adult or a trusted friend. You need support during this time in your life, so don't be ashamed to ask for help.
  • A great way to boost your self-confidence during this difficult time in your life is to get involved in something you enjoy. If you are a very good singer, painter or handball player, these activities will give you more confidence.
  • If these emotions are interfering with your daily life and making you feel depressed, seek professional help. Talking about it with a specialist will allow you to better manage these emotions and deal with them in a healthier way.
  • Exercise can help you cope with your anxiety, which often results from these changes you experience during puberty. Physical activity actually releases chemicals in your brain and therefore improves your mood. So play the sports you love, whether it's swimming, dancing or a team sport.
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Step 5. Don't try to compare yourself to others

Puberty is something we all have to go through. However, it does not always happen at the same time depending on the person. If you start to notice changes before your friends or if you feel like puberty is happening later in your case, don't worry. In a few years you will all be at the same point.

  • Puberty generally begins between the ages of 8 and 13 for girls.
  • Puberty begins between the ages of 9 and 15 for boys.
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Step 6. Prepare to feel sexual desire

At some point in your puberty, you are likely to experience sexual desire. Just because you feel this desire doesn't mean that you are emotionally ready to have sex. The best thing to do is to talk to an adult you trust so you know when you're ready to take the plunge and how to protect yourself.

  • If you do decide to have sex, understand the importance of protecting yourself so that you don't get pregnant or get a sexually transmitted infection (STI). The best way to protect yourself against these risks is to always use a condom, even though it is not 100% effective.
  • Oral sex can also lead to STIs, so it is important that you protect yourself during these practices. Use a dental barrier, plastic wrap, or square cut condom when having oral sex on the vulva (area outside the vagina) or anus. Also use a condom when having oral sex on a penis. You can find condoms and plastic wrap at your nearest supermarket or pharmacy. For the dental barrier, however, you will have to go to family planning or to a dental specialist.
  • Don't let anyone force you to have sex if you aren't ready yet. It's a personal decision and no one can (and should) make it for you.
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Step 7. Find a confidant

If you're uncomfortable with the changes in your body, you can talk to someone who went through puberty before you. Confide in an adult who is the same sex as you and whom you can trust. It could be a parent, older sibling, or even your family doctor.

  • You can tell your friends about it, but remember that they too are upset by these changes, so don't take their advice too seriously.
  • If you are under the care of a pediatrician who is not of the same sex as you and with whom you are not comfortable enough to discuss your puberty, ask your parents if you can change your doctor.

Method 2 of 3: Manage girl-specific puberty issues

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Step 1. Learn how to wax

Girls start to have hair on their arms, legs and around the pubic area during puberty. You don't have to epilate if you don't want to, of course, but many teenage girls start to do it after the first hairs appear. You can discuss this with your mother or another trusted adult before you start waxing for the first time.

  • A manual razor will be the easiest technique for a beginner. There are many techniques for waxing, however, but all will require the use of a lubricant such as shaving gel or foam. Be very careful when shaving so that you do not cut yourself. You can also use an electric razor if you prefer.
  • Waxing your legs, armpits and bikini line is also an option. It may be a bit painful the first time, but your hair will grow back less quickly than after you shave.
  • You can also use chemicals (available in supermarkets) to remove hair without having to use a razor.
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Step 2. Buy a bra

When your breasts are growing, you need to start wearing a bra. Ask your mom or another trusted adult to help you find one.

  • You may need different kinds of bras, especially if you exercise and therefore need more support.
  • It is very important that you choose a bra that fits you perfectly. If you need help choosing it, go to a lingerie store where a saleswoman can help you.
  • Don't worry if one of your breasts is growing faster than the other. They will end up being the same size, although for many women the two breasts are never exactly the same.
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Step 3. Prepare for your period

Getting your period for the first time can be almost scary, but it's much easier if you've been prepared for it. When you get your period, you should either use a sanitary napkin, which you can attach to your panties, or a tampon, which you can insert into your vagina. You will find instructions on how to use them on the box, but it is best to talk to an older woman (like your mother) to benefit from her advice.

  • Always pack clean panties and a refreshing wipe in your satchel, in case you have your first period during your school day.
  • Periods usually start around the age of 12, but it's still okay to have them between the ages of 8 and 16.
  • Having your period means that you can now have a baby. If your eggs don't come in contact with a man's sperm, you will have your period every month. During your period, you lose approximately one cup of blood, which flows from your vagina for 3 to 7 days.
  • Don't worry if your first period is a browner than red color. It is totaly normal. Also, don't be alarmed if your period is irregular for the first few months. Everything will quickly return to order.
  • Remember to change your sanitary napkin or tampon regularly (usually you need to do this every 4 hours). Tampons can cause serious illness (called toxic shock syndrome) if they are not changed regularly.
  • In addition to your period, you will occasionally notice a white discharge in your panties. This can happen before your first period and continue after you have had it for the first time. Vaginal discharge is caused by hormonal changes in your body and keeps your vagina healthy.
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Step 4. Accept the weight gain

In addition to breast growth, some girls experience other changes in their body shape. It is perfectly normal and even healthy for teenage girls to gain weight and develop shape during puberty. So don't try to avoid it if it happens to you.

Dieting during puberty to prevent you from gaining weight is unhealthy. It is important that you let your body develop naturally. A woman's body is different from a little girl's and there is nothing wrong with that

Method 3 of 3: Deal with boy-specific puberty issues

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Step 1. Accept your change of voice

As boys go through puberty, their voices get deeper. This happens because the larynx and vocal cords grow rapidly. Unfortunately, as your body adjusts to these changes, your voice may break or become higher in unexpected ways. There is nothing you can do to prevent this, but rest assured that these changes won't last more than a few months.

For most adolescents, these changes occur between the ages of 11 and 14

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Step 2. Start shaving

At some point in your puberty, you may notice hairs growing on your chin and above your upper lip. When you notice the appearance of these hairs, you will probably want to shave them off. Talk to your dad or a trusted adult before you shave for the first time.

  • An electric shaver with a swivel head will generally be more practical and efficient. However, it won't shave you as close as a manual razor.
  • You can also use a manual razor, but you need to be more careful not to cut yourself. Always use shaving foam or gel with this type of razor to avoid irritating your skin.
  • You will also notice the growth of hair under your arms and around your penis. The hair on your arms, legs, and other parts of your body will also become thicker and denser. You don't have to shave these hairs off, but if they bother you, you can use an epilator or razor to get rid of them.
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Step 3. Expect to have erections

A boy going through puberty will start to have erections, that is, his cock will become harder because it will be filled with blood. It can happen unexpectedly, so don't worry too much.

  • Erections can happen anytime, whether you are sexually aroused or not.
  • Try not to be too embarrassed if you get an erection around other people. They usually won't pay attention to this detail, although you might think otherwise.
  • If you want to get rid of an erection, don't focus on it. Instead, think about a boring or repetitive task, like saying the alphabet backwards.

Step 4. Don't be surprised by the growth of your genitals

You will also notice that your penis and testicles are growing during adolescence. Don't worry too much about their size, and don't try to compare them to your fellow students. While you may worry that one testicle will grow faster than the other, keep in mind that they will be almost the same when you are finished growing.

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Step 5. Realize that ejaculating is normal

In addition to erections, you will start to have ejaculations. An ejaculation occurs when semen comes out of your penis.Like erections this can happen unexpectedly, don't worry, it is perfectly normal when the body becomes that of a man.

  • You can ejaculate at any time, whether you are aroused or not.
  • In addition to daytime erections, you may also have nocturnal erections, more commonly known as “wet dreams”. It is actually the possibility of having an erection while you sleep, ejaculating and therefore releasing semen from your penis. This is a perfectly normal stage of development and will stop happening as you get older.
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Step 6. Don't worry if your breasts are growing

During puberty, it is normal for some parts of your body to develop, and this may happen to a limited extent for your breasts. This is perfectly normal and does not mean that you are making the wrong hormones. As you grow older, these changes will go away.

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