Are you often very busy, introverted, angry or depressed? You may need to avoid specific people or groups, if any of these terms apply to you. Unless you prefer everyone to give up on you. Sometimes we can find joy in solitude. You should approach the situation with caution, whatever your motive. Start off subtly enough, you don't want to upset anyone. You just need a little time for yourself. You should be more direct if the person or people still haven't understood. You will have to come to extreme measures if direct but tactful exchanges do not work.
Method 1 of 3: Use subtle methods
Step 1. Use your body language
There are loads of clues you can pass on to someone to make them realize that it is time for them to go. The most obvious clue is usually to turn your back on the person and let them know that the discussion is over. Likewise, expressions of boredom convey the same message. Cross your arms, slump down, look away, and stare somewhere else in the room. These clues will obviously depend on the social context in which you find yourself.
- Start by gathering your papers and muttering something about a report to finish if you find yourself in an office partition and your super chatty coworker doesn't want to leave you alone. This will indicate to the unwanted person that it is time for them to go. You are obviously too busy to chat.
- Make sure you assess the situation well and that goes for most of the tactics discussed in this article. Bad gestures can produce quite negative reactions. Another approach is best if the person you are dealing with quickly loses his temper or gets angry often.
Step 2. Build walls
You will inevitably come into contact with people, but there are all kinds of techniques that will discourage communication from the outset. You can put on headphones if you are at home and your parents are bugging you by asking you to do something you don't like. This will create an auditory wall between you and your parents. They probably won't harass you to take your headphones off so they can talk to you. Likewise, your parents are likely to avoid disturbing you and therefore talking to you if you are reading, doing homework, or otherwise busy.
Step 3. Get someone else to help you
We have all been stuck in those discussions or situations that we wanted to escape from. An acquaintance never ceases to moan about his problems. A parent is constantly harassing you to force you to get married or have a child. One of the easiest ways to get out of this type of situation is to enlist someone to help you.
- Apologize on the pretext of a call to a loved one, if you are at a very lively party. You can tell the person you are trying to flee from that you absolutely must reach that loved one. You can then walk away without offending anyone. Ideally, you should find someone else to talk to. You're not going to walk away and then find yourself all alone across the room.
- You could also come to an agreement with another person before going to a party or any other social event. Tonight, for example, you have to go to a party organized by your office. You go there with a colleague you like. You know the night is going to be cheesy and you will inevitably have to talk to people you don't like. Decide using a sign agreed in advance with your favorite colleague that you are ready to go. Make sure you keep it subtle enough. Pull up the sleeves of your shirt or run a hand through your hair. Your signal should be clear to the other person, but should not draw attention to your actions.
Method 2 of 3: Be more direct
Step 1. Tell the person to leave you alone
Don't mislead others. Be upfront about how you feel, especially if it's someone you are dating on a sentimental level. Avoid bland pretexts where you say now is not the time for you. You might think your clue is obvious, but some people will take it literally. We might call you back later. Make it clear and unequivocal that you are not interested in this. That doesn't mean you should be tactless and say something offensive, but you can always say you just don't care, that you like the person, but not that way.
Step 2. Be polite
We will always be sensitive to your clues, if they are well delivered. Sometimes you will need to add something. No one wants a confrontation, but you should politely tell someone to leave you alone when the time is right. Get her attention first and then gently ask her if she doesn't mind leaving you alone.
Step 3. Give reasons or find excuses
No one wants to be rebuffed for no reason or to be rejected for no reason. Tell the person why they should go. Do you have to talk to someone else? Do you have a job to complete? Be tactful, whatever your reason, and tell her why you want her to go. She will be more likely to agree to your request.
Step 4. Set up automatic responses online
Program your email account so that it automatically sends email messages to those you do not want to reply to. You might even consider untracking or putting people you no longer want to talk to in your “junk” folder.
Conventional, automated “out of the office” email is a common tool in most business settings today. You just need to set up an automatic email where you let your correspondents know that you are momentarily absent from your extension and that you will respond when you are back, if you know that you cannot reply to your emails for a certain period of time. time and don't want to receive dozens of messages about the same problem. So you won't have to answer loads of emails individually and everyone will know what to expect
Method 3 of 3: Use extreme measures
Step 1. Avoid contact
There are many ways to avoid coming into contact with people you don't want to see. You can change your schedule to avoid them if you also know theirs. The main thing is not to become a perfect hermit. Don't stay at home all the time. Weigh the pros and cons. Should you take the risk of seeing other people? Is this risk such that it is better to stay at home all the time?
There are even apps that can help you avoid people. One of them, called Cloak, gathers geographic location data from other social networks like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter to then tell you if the person you're looking to avoid lives near you. It's not one hundred percent effective, but it can be a good tool, especially if you're looking to avoid someone who is social media high
Step 2. Completely ignore the person (s)
Inflict absolute silence on them. You should resort to more obvious measures, while remaining gentle enough, if you are forced to interact with someone who has not reacted to your subtle or more direct forms of communication. The tactic of indifference isn't just for kids. This is quite a toxic procedure, as it is generally perceived to be obvious and quite crude. It's a quick way to tell others that you don't want to talk to them.
This maneuver can, in many cases, backfire. A person who refuses to blame in a relationship with you may be trying to annoy you by continuing to talk to you. You should be patient or try something else
Step 3. Don't get violent
Violence is rarely a solution unless you have to defend yourself. It can be very tempting to attack someone who is bothering you rather than sticking to your non-violent ways. You might want to slap or punch someone who is especially hurtful or distressing, but resist the urge. Use your language, not your fists.
Step 4. Get legal help
You might consider calling the police and filling out a no-visit form if your relationship has escalated into harassment or even attacks. You should not take this type of measure lightly. It can have quite serious legal repercussions for the person concerned. Don't do this unless you feel unsafe around that person. You may want to consider a visit ban if someone has physically assaulted you or made threats against yourself or loved ones.