An interested person is someone whose primary interest is their partner's wealth and what they can do with it. You will notice that these people often encourage their partners to give them expensive gifts, take loans or give them money. Often times, they feel like they deserve the best in life without having to work to get it. If you are looking for a real romantic connection, you should be wary of interested people and avoid them.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Observe your financial dependence
Step 1. Check his employment situation
Many interested people either have no job or have a very low level job until they attract a partner who can take care of them. When you first start dating, ask them questions about their job and the future of their career. If she gives you vague answers or laughs at them, there might be a problem.
Step 2. Be concerned if she refuses inexpensive gifts
This is the gesture that should count when giving gifts. If you think your partner is interested, you might try giving them a thoughtful, yet inexpensive, gift. Then watch his reaction. If he ridicules the gift or refuses it, he's probably interested.
For example, see what happens when you give her a flower at the start of a date. Does she put it in a vase or throw it aside right away?
Step 3. Watch for questions about your holdings
Someone you are dating might be curious about your past and your job to a reasonable extent. However, you might be concerned if she asks you a lot of questions about your money and assets. If she asks you questions about your car or your stock market, especially if it's early on, you should be alarmed.
You can also answer their questions and observe their reactions. For example, you might observe how she reacts when you tell her that you are driving an older model of car. An interested person might openly express their disgust when you tell them or even suggest that you buy a more expensive one
Step 4. Notice the questions about your family assets
Some interested people don't stop at your money and plan for the long haul. They think about what will happen if you come from a family that has money. Also watch people asking about your parents' jobs or asking if you have a trust fund.
For example, an interested person might say, "Oh, your dad is an architect, that's great. I'm sure he's set up a trust fund for you. "
Step 5. Be careful if you lend him money
It is always dangerous to lend money in a relationship, but it is something that interested people expect and try to force. Be especially careful of repeated unforeseen "emergencies" that cause you to give them money, usually in the form of a loan.
- This is all the more true if she continues to live the high life when she is struggling with money.
- If she asks you for a loan, you might say, “I don't think it's a good idea to lend money to her partner. This creates an imbalance in the couple”.
Step 6. Pay attention to requests for money in general
If that person isn't working, but still has to pay their bills, they might ask for help in some way. If she intends to use this money instead of finding work or something else, she may be interested. If you stop giving her money, you won't see her anymore.
You should take note of the circumstances and situations in which she has asked you for money to help you see if there are any repeating patterns
Method 2 of 3: Watch for bad behavior
Step 1. Notice if she thinks she is owed everything
Ask your partner what she thinks she has the right to receive from life in general and from yourself. If her response indicates that she sees romantic relationships as a partnership, that's a good sign. If she emphasizes the things she "deserves" from others, including you, she's probably an interested person.
You should also be concerned if she seems to believe she deserves the best without making any effort to get it. For example, she might ask you to give her jewelry early on in the relationship
Step 2. Observe the profiles on social networks
As you search social networking sites, focus on people who have listed expensive hobbies, interests, or preferences. Everyone is of course entitled to appreciate expensive wine, but that can become a problem if that person only drinks it for the price and not for the quality.
- For example, an interested person's profile might say, "I like shopping when I'm not the one paying."
- This kind of person might not be aware of the impression they are making, and they are not going to try to hide their greed. However, others are more sophisticated and understated.
Step 3. Pay attention to the behaviors of his friends
People generally spend their time with like-minded people. If all of your partner's friends are interested people, chances are they are too. If her friends keep talking about their quest for a rich husband, you know they are only interested in money.
If you're worried, you might ask your partner, "I've noticed your friends talk about money a lot. Why do you think this is the case? "
Method 3 of 3: Observe the relationship
Step 1. Know that it can be male or female
It is often mistakenly believed that only women are interested. Men can be too, and they often are too. The gifts they ask for are different, but the price is none the less. Likewise, some interested people are looking for long-term relationships while others only want temporary help.
Step 2. Ask yourself if he would stay if you ran out of money
Take some time to seriously think about what would happen if you lost all your money tomorrow. Who would stay by your side to support you and who would let you down? A good partner would continue to treat you the same, while an interested person would quickly disappear.
If you want to get as much information as possible, you can ask your partner these questions. This will allow you to see if he is responding in a disbelieving, angry or rude manner to your concerns
Step 3. Don't be fooled by its appearance
People who are interested can sometimes appear to have found success and have a comfortable lifestyle at first. They could wear expensive brands and know how to behave around wealthy people. Over time, you will understand if they paid for their expensive possessions themselves or if they took advantage of the generosity of their previous partners.
Step 4. Discuss your idea of love and romance
Sit down with this person and explain your idea of a romantic relationship. Then ask her what she thinks about it. If she doesn't see relationships as a partnership, and if she always puts everything down to money and material goods, that indicates that she is interested.
Step 5. Think about what you have in common
If you start to suspect your partner is interested, reflect on your memories and try to find what you have in common. Include as much information as possible, from the most important things like your religion to minor details like your favorite foods. If the list seems rather short, it is possible that the only thing you have in common is the money you have.
Advice
- You can protect yourself from an interested person early enough in the relationship by keeping separate bank accounts.
- An interested person is generally more concerned with appearance than reality. She might spend a lot of time worrying about what others are going to think.
Warnings
- If you've met through a dating agency that deals with wealthy people, or through that kind of referral to interested people, you should try another method for your next relationship.
- It's okay to pay the bill every once in a while, but you should stop seeing each other if you're still paying it.