There you go, your phone has been confiscated by your parents! It happens so often these days that you should even be used to it. Nonetheless, there are ways to remedy the situation, and more importantly, ways to avoid being taken back from you again.
Part 1 of 3: understand why the phone was confiscated
Step 1. Realize that the phone isn't even yours
You should be aware that the device and all of its cute accessories might not really be yours. The one who actually owns them is the person who pays the monthly plans, that is, your father or mother. Therefore, until you are able to take care of these packages yourself, you will be forced to cooperate with your parents who are the real owners of the device. The first response people get when they have something taken away is often emotional, but you should avoid getting defensive and arguing with them in order to get the phone back.
Step 2. Rationalize what happened
Find out what really happened. It is important that you really find out all the reasons why your phone was taken from you. If you want to get it back quickly, you'll have to play a little role-playing game: put yourself in your parents' shoes.
Step 3. See if they are too expensive to use your device
Mobile phone service providers like Bouygues Telecom, Free Mobile, Orange and SFR are there to extract as much money as possible from the consumer.
- Service providers offer multiple pricing plans, but unfortunately they will hardly ever help you find the ones that will allow you to spend less. Review your parents' plan and compare with pricing plans as well as services offered by other mobile phone providers.
- Determine if the plan your parents bought includes just calls and messages or calls, messages and browsing data. Data services can indeed be much more expensive. Find out about the other details of their pricing plan, such as the fees that apply in the event of breach of contract, and make an effort to understand the tricks service providers use to extract money from customers. consumers.
- See if your parents mainly complain about a single, very high expense, such as having to call someone off the mainland for two hours, or if their dissatisfaction is with a usage habit like downloading videos. movies in order to watch them later.
- Ask friends to tell you about their pricing plans. This way you could help your parents find a better package for the whole family!
Step 4. See if your phone use is unsafe
Parents these days are worried about all the ways their children can get into trouble on their cell phones. If you have been deprived of your device because of reckless use of it, you need to show your parents that you can think about your safety in the future.
- Cell phones can be used to impersonate a person.
- They can put you in contact with unsavory individuals.
- There is also the issue of calls while driving. Chatting on the phone while driving is illegal in most areas, and texting is also considered one of the most dangerous things you can do while driving.
Step 5. See if your phone use was unpleasant
The notions of politeness and etiquette when it comes to mobile devices are not yet well established and may vary from one social group to another.
- What you and your friends find acceptable may not be viewed well by your parents.
- If you have been deprived of your phone because you have behaved unpleasantly, you will need to prove to your parents that you can change and use the device properly and however they want, at least in their presence..
- Do you respond to your father's messages after hours?
- What do you do if your phone rings when you were having a serious discussion with your mom? If you pick it up while she's talking to you, there's very little chance that she'll be happy.
- Do not send messages to your friends while you are having dinner with the family or attending other such events. There are several other nasty ways to use your phone, and you will need to find out exactly what your parents think is unacceptable.
Step 6. Know the real reason the device was taken from you
Did your parents grab the phone because of a combination of several of the above reasons? You need to take the time to decipher the complaints they have made so that you know what really made them angry. They might tell you that they grabbed the phone because they are fed up with your lack of decency, when in reality they are rather worried for your safety or for financial reasons. There may as well be other reasons.
- Make sure you understand all of the reasons that led to the phone being seized before moving on to part two below.
Part 2 of 3: Interact with your parents to get the phone back
Step 1. Be aware that it will take some time to recover the phone
You have to accept the fact that it may take some time before you can get the device back. Just pinpointing the source of the problem can take you 3 to 4 days after entering the laptop, sometimes a week or even longer.
- Telling your parents the day after the cell phone was taken from you that you got it all is likely to be counterproductive. They will indeed think that you are not being sincere and saying it so early does not give them time to calm down anyway.
- Show your parents that you have rationally analyzed the whole situation and that you understand the reasons why they deprived you of your phone. It will take some time. You don't have to go so far as to say you agree with them, you just need to show that you've taken their concerns into account and understood them.
Step 2. Arrange a meeting with your parents
You can do this in order to tell them what you have discovered. Prepare what you are going to say. Don't make extreme claims that you will use your phone in a way that will always and always comply with what your parents want.
- Avoid being overly responsive to some of their complaints during your presentation. Instead, describe what you may have discovered. Show your parents that your future actions will be guided by what you learned as lessons, not just wanting to be okay with them.
- Tell your parents that you will make better choices because of the better understanding you now have of the situation.
- You might also consider presenting what you deduced in a letter. For some parents, this will be a sign that you are really serious.
- If you are sharing your findings in a face-to-face meeting, be sure to adopt a serious tone.
- Be a good advocate for yourself. For example, you can play it safe and tell your parents that you need the phone to contact them in the event of a serious problem.
Step 3. Do nothing more after meeting with them
You will obviously have to stay in the good favor of your parents, but you need to understand that from there the ball is in their court. You have presented your case rationally and all you have to do is wait for their response. It shouldn't take too long.
- The worst you can do here is ask them to return the phone to you right away. This will undermine the seriousness of the discussion. Again, be careful not to get emotional.
- You need to be patient at this point in the process.
Step 4. Act normally if your parents return the phone to you
Don't jump up in the air with tears in your eyes and claim that you will behave impeccably from now on.
- There are only two things you need to say to your parents at this time: thank them and explain that you intend to show them that returning the device to you was a good decision on their part. Add nothing to it.
- If you follow what is stated in Part 3, you will effectively show your parents that you deserve the trust they have placed in you.
Part 3 of 3: Show that making the phone is the best decision
Step 1. Know that all is not yet finished
Your work doesn't stop when you pick up your phone. If you don't feel like having it taken back again, you will need to show your parents that you have changed so that you can use it to comply with the conclusions you previously presented to them. Respect everything you said.
Step 2. Show parents that you understand the situation
You have to prove to them that you understand what it means to own that phone. Keep in mind that you are not the actual owner of the laptop. It's not really you who pay for the monthly plans until the money comes out of your pocket. Recognize the status of the true holders, your parents.
- Prioritize calls from your parents. If you're chatting on the phone with a friend and notice your mom calling you, tell the friend you'll call back and take your mom's call.
- If your dad leaves you a message and asks you a question that needs a quick answer, call him back as quickly as you can. If you can't answer right away, say the reason.
Step 3. Check in with your parents regularly
You have to do this in relation to how you use your cell phone. Engage actively with them. Don't be passive while waiting for them to come to you. Also, avoid being evasive. Now you fully understand the situation and are more knowledgeable about how service providers are making money so you know how to use your phone in a healthy way.
- Show your parents that you can recognize when you reach the maximum limit of your plan and that you are able to stop using browsing data until you can do so later.
- Explain to them that you now refuse to stop driving.
- Tell them how your better use of your phone has improved your relationships with your various friends.
Step 4. Accept the fact that you are not perfect
You must realize that despite your best efforts you are likely to still cause irritation to your parents in the future with your phone use. If you make a mistake every once in a while you should be fine, but you absolutely shouldn't ignore these mistakes. You also shouldn't pretend you don't know anything when problems inevitably arise. If you make a mistake, be the first to tell your parents about it, don't wait for them to call you out.
- Complaining, crying, and moping is a tactic that will only work for a while with some parents. This is not an attitude conducive to a harmonious family life.
- You will have to use several mobile devices in your lifetime, but your parents are unique. Keep this in mind when you have this kind of conflict.
- The three-part process described above can also be used when you have other conflicts with your parents. You must first investigate the problem, present your findings to your parents, and show them that you are ready to cooperate.
- Just accept that your parents care about you and that you messed up, and then promise not to do it again.
- The capabilities of mobile devices and modern communication technologies are changing rapidly in general, which is why you need to stay informed and recognize it when your participation starts to go awry.
- Write a nice note to your parents.
- Make the effort to do extra chores and tasks. Even after you get your phone back, keep doing them to let your parents know you were genuine.
- If you realize that you have made mistakes, then your parents are right to deprive you of the telephone. You can get it back, however, if you manage to regain their trust.